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I Don't Like Gentlemanly Treatment

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Juanita11

Juanita11

I was raised that a man never hits a woman, he always opens the door for a lady and pulls out her chair and never treats her physically like a man. He would never hit her even if she hits first, no matter what.
I don’t want to hate being treated like that. It’s really stupid but I have trained in martial arts since I was little so to have a guy refuse to do anything to me even when I tell him to so I can show him something to answer his question about my martial art.
My dads friend is a great guy and he asked me a question so I was showing him and told him to block my strike naturally and he let me hit him so when I was like what are you doing he was like ” But your a girl” and I said that was sexist and he said ‘ No that’s gentlemanly” and I know that was right but I hate it! I have experienced guys hesitating to hit me the whole time. I just don’t think you should not hit me because I am girl when he wouldn’t hesitate to do it if I was a guy. I just feel inadequate.
And with all the common courtesies I don’t like it. I should be a lady and accept a mans kindness but I don’t. I hate being treated differently.
How do I get over this. Being in the society I am in I should learn to just accept it. But I don’t like chivalry. Even if it means getting my butt beat I would rather it.

October 6, 2016 at 23:07
theteenfashionista

theteenfashionista

OMGOSH I SO AGREE! I have been a fighter all my life and, well, if someone doesn’t fight with me I’m very offended. I usually want to test my strength against other people and work harder if they’re not as strong as me so, if a guy doesn’t fight with me because it’s not “gentlemanly” I will feel very hurt.
Thankfully that has never happened to me, though,

October 7, 2016 at 02:53
Clairabear

Clairabear

This couldn’t possibly have come at a better time! I just joined a Kung Fu class at my new school, and I’m the only girl. It’s really great in many ways because I’m meeting people I wouldn’t have been friends with otherwise and it’s super fun, but it’s also really weird because all of the guys assume that I’m not strong enough. Yes, I’m new and are nowhere near as experienced as they are, but it’s not like I will break like a twig… I’m strong, they just don’t know that yet I guess.

October 7, 2016 at 16:26
theteenfashionista

theteenfashionista

Lol u show them clairabear!!!!!!!!!!!!:D

October 7, 2016 at 18:03
Juanita11

Juanita11

I just don’t understand why my gender means you should treat me like a china doll. I can take it!
I have learned that in martial arts fighting, take whatever advantage you can get. If they are hesitant take em out! Let all the boys know you can be tough. If they won’t fight they lose. #feminism ( Though I am not even a feminist…)

October 7, 2016 at 18:23
theteenfashionista

theteenfashionista

Amen Juanita–anti feminist here too. I don’t think it’s called feminism, it’s called COMMON SENSE.
And good work on that hashtagging. We’ll be expecting a lot this month #chatroomjokes

October 8, 2016 at 04:34
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