Sorry if this is in the wrong section, it’s my first time using the forums!
There are two things that are bothering me deeply right now. The verse that says wives must submit to their husbands. I know that husbands must love their wives as Christ loves the church as well, but can’t the wife love the husband the same way? And the husband submit to the wife too? As hard as I try, I can’t understand this.
The second thing is the verse where it says women can’t have authority over men. I don’t have much to say about this, except that I don’t understand it either.
Have times simply changed since then? Do I have to follow these two verses? I’m actually starting to wonder if it’s all worth it, and I hate feeling that way! Any help would be highly appreciated. Thank you 🙂
|July 12, 2015 at 21:36|
So, I think every Christian woman has struggled with that same thing at one point or another. But here’s the thing: even if times have changed and the application of scripture might be a little different, the Bible is still the Word of God and as such is infallible. I took me a long time to learn that submission doesn’t mean just sitting there and taking a bunch of crap and letting someone use/abuse you and never giving your own opinion. I am not married (I’m just 17) but in my parents relationship, what that means is that they discus everything, big and small, with one another, no matter what, but if they absolutely can’t come to a decision or compromise after serious discussion and prayer, they do what my dad feels is best. Such a circumstance is pretty rare, because God designed marriage to be a partnership and a team. As far as “why can’t men also submit to women” I think the real reason is because you can’t have a team full of leaders. I was in a year-long leadership program for teens in my hometown and it took us FOREVER to get things done in the beginning because we were all trying to lead and no one wanted to follow. We had to learn that certain ones of us were better at leading in certain circumstances and situations and that we didn’t all always have the right skills or experience to lead in every situation. I hope that this helps just a little.
|July 13, 2015 at 07:20|
^Article on women teaching by Rachel Held Evans, who I think is awesome.
As far as wives submitting to husbands, I’m sorry I don’t have time right now to write out a thoughtful response, I will as soon as I can though 😀
|July 13, 2015 at 15:10|
Here’s a good comic about what a husband and wife are supposed to do for each other. The Bible says for spouses to serve each other, just in different ways. 🙂
|July 14, 2015 at 14:25|
I think these articles put it well:
|July 15, 2015 at 08:11|
^ Phylicia Delta is super sexist. I wouldn’t recommend her.
Long story short, yes I think the Bible is sexist.
|July 15, 2015 at 09:18|
I have talked about this on PI before, but I will give my take on this passage again. A man and a women reflect two different aspects of God. The man represents God (because he was created first, like God was 1st), and women represents the church. When man and women come together in the unity of marriage they represent so beautifully the unbreakable bond of God and church. The church is to submit to God just like a women submits to a man. The entire purpose of marriage is to reflect God (the love he has for his church) and his church. However women DOES NOT have to submit to man outside of marriage. My take.
|July 15, 2015 at 16:46|
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