Hi girls. So, I have posted many, many forums about boys. Some may call me boy crazy, but you know what? I can’t help it. It must be in my genetics. I just don’t have control over my boy craziness. Anyhoo, many of my friends have had boyfriends (for instance, Michaela, Izzy, Jenna and Amanda are all close friends of mine. Not all of them have dated, but it seems like they all have a guy giving them special attention). I mean, there is this one guy, Josh (it’s a common name, I think it’s fine) who he kind of asked me out once and we went on a date “chaperoned” by my bestie Elizabeth. And then this guy liked me in middle school. But other than that, I mean guys (Spencer, TJ, Ryan, both Jacobs, etc) like me as friends, but… Okay, so I am frustrated I don’t have a guy. I was telling my youth leader Katie (we’re pretty tight) about my frustration that guys weren’t paying attention to me and she told me, “I think a lot of your frustrations are rooted in the desire to have a boyfriend.” And I couldn’t argue with that. (Just FYI, I am not desperate. The first literary example that comes to mind is the baker’s wife and Cinderella’s prince in Into The Woods, that isn’t me!)
I always wonder if I am lacking certain personality traits and am not good enough because guys just don’t see anything in me. I try to be calm, rooted, humble, caring, etc but trying will never cut it. Spencer (one of my good guy friends) always tells me I am not lacking anything, but I need proof. If I am not lacking something my friends have, why don’t guys like me? I guess I just feel like what I don’t have is…. thrown in my face. Like Michaela (she is beautiful, humble, caring, etc) has had at least two guys interested in her. And one of my friends who is 19 has had like 3 boyfriends… I just feel like what I don’t have is being thrown in my face. No one is making fun of me saying, “Kelly, you don’t have a guy, what a loser!” But i see these events folding in front of my face day after day, and I am starting to worry I am not good enough, especially since I am almost 18….
It’s not like I wake up in the morning dreading life, but whenever I get on Facebook, am reminded of my single status, etc, i sometimes have small panic attacks or get upset.
|January 3, 2015 at 14:51|
|January 5, 2015 at 12:11|
It happens all at once. I haven’t really had any guys interested in me for awhile and then all of a sudden 2 guys from high school started txting me and when I was on a walk a guy introduced himself and started talking to me haha 🙂 I don’t want to date right now but it was flattering. 🙂
Also, I’m not quite sure how to explain this, but sometimes when we want something and worry (or constantly think about it) we can never quite catch it. Like that happiness quote~
“Happiness is like a butterfly, the more you chase it, the more it alludes you. But turn your attention to other things and it lands softly on your shoulder.”
It’s true for happiness, but I think it’s true for other things too. Focus first on being a good person–for the sake of being a good person–and when you’re ready God will bring the right guy into your life.
I hope I helped, though I’m not really the boy-crazy type 😛
|January 5, 2015 at 12:21|
I’m not boy-crazy by any stretch of the imagination. BUT I do get where you are coming from. I’m seventeen and I’ve never had a guy show interest in me. And it kinda sucks sometimes. So I really don’t know what to tell you but to just try to be happy with being single. Being single can be really great! But ya, I get where you’re coming from and I totally feel like that sometimes.
|January 5, 2015 at 12:47|
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