So I’m infatuated with my guy friend. We are close and we can be ourselves with each other, but having a crush on him stinks. He’s younger than me and I think the timing is all wrong. I feel like he might have feelings for me and I don’t want to lead him on. We can only be friends and that’s really all I want. I’ve been praying for God’s will and that he’d take this away from me. I want to still be his friend, and we haven’t ever had a conversation about how we are just friends or anything. I just assume that its something we both know. I dont really know what to really do. When I’m with him I almost forget that I like him, lately it has changed a little, but I want to get back to just being friends and not flirting. Advice? Can you guys pray for me and him?
|December 17, 2014 at 17:51|
I think you may need to distance yourself from him a bit, consciously try not to flirt. Hang out with him less one-on-one and more in big groups, especially if you have a friend who knows the situation with you so she can be like “hey, you’re getting too flirty” or something like that. Just starve yourself off of him and focus more on other things, especially God.
|December 18, 2014 at 05:52|
Wow, first of all let me tell you that you are brave! Most girls in our culture today would fall head over heals and do anything to keep 100% of the guys attention. You on the other hand are standing against the feeling and wanting just simple friendship. I admire you, because I’ve been through it and it is hard! One of the ways I learned to stop flirting was to start praying for the man’s future wife. That got me into the kind of thinking that I didn’t have a right to him. When I was with the guy it was habit then to think of his future wife which kept me from flirting.
Flirting is an attention getter for us girls, it makes us feel wanted, liked and pretty sometimes. So in order for me to stop trying to get that from guys I had to build up my relationship with my Mom. It took awhile but now after 2 years, she and I are much closer and the confidence that I don’t get from God, I get from her.
|December 30, 2014 at 03:58|
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