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Soccerfan99

So recently (like yesterday) a guy friend told me he liked me. (If you saw my other sort of recent post, its not the same guy) He goes to youth group and says the right stuff on church ground. The second he’s off, he cusses, and does all bad stuff (drinking and I’m pretty sure drugs) He’s what I call a superficial Christian. Well I’ve never had a boyfriend and with all the peer pressure of everyone having boyfriends and stuff I’m really reeeeaaallly tempted to say yes if he would ever ask me to be his girlfriend. I know its wrong and I shouldn’t I would never never never think of marrying a guy like him so I just need affirmation and support. Maybe some bible verses or stuff. Idk I just need help. Thanks!!! 🙈❤

February 11, 2016 at 22:29
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just_a_girl101

He sounds like a sketchy guy, especially if he does drugs. You should probably become friends first, but just be careful and don’t let him talk you into doing anything you aren’t comfortable with. Don’t give in to the pressure! Trust me, having a boyfriend just because everyone else does is not a good way to go. And if you would never think of marrying a guy like him, that’s probably a pretty solid sign that he’s not a good guy for you to date either. I wouldn’t say to completely cut all ties with him, but maybe you should just be friends and like I said, be careful.

February 18, 2016 at 08:43
AdventureGirl

AdventureGirl

I think you deserve someone with a better mindset and attitude.

February 18, 2016 at 13:42
princesshunter

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Don’t give in to the pressure. You’re not alone. There are many people who have never been in a relationship, myself included. And its not a bad thing. I have no distractions and can freely live for Christ. I know it’s hard to resist the pressure of wanting to give in. Bit if we give in to the ‘little’ things, how can we resist bigger things? I believe this experience can be used to strengthen your relationship with God. It may not seem like a big deal to date a nonbeliever now, but next thing you know, you’re falling for him and end up married, then he’ll have you doing things against God and ultimately turn you away from God. As the Casting Crown song says, “people never crumble in a day, it’s a slow fade.” Verses that may help: 2 Corinthians 6:14, John 14:15, John 16:33, Romans 8:18. I wish you the best of luck and remember to seek God first💕

February 19, 2016 at 17:28
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Soccerfan99

Thank you so much! Its been a week since he’s told me he likes me and he hasn’t said anything about dating so that’s good! I’ll definitely look up those bible verses and work on my relationship with God. Recently I’ve realized that my relationship with him is faltering so I think this is his way of saying “alright nows the time to decide. Me or him?” Idk lol thanks again so much ❤❤❤

February 19, 2016 at 18:12
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amelia.pond

Girly, don’t even pursue a friendship with this guy. A “Christian” who is only a Christian at church is bad news when he gets mixed up with your emotions. I really recommend that you stear clear of him.

February 25, 2016 at 13:14
MayaAlice

MayaAlice

Gurrl, If you do not see yourself with him in the long run (like marrying him) then I say just to friend-zone him. Unless HE is willing to change right NOW and become a true man of God, then it will not be worth the drama. Trust me!!
1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

March 10, 2016 at 11:58
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SavannahLS

The bible says to guard your heart. Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
Would you personally think that pursuing this guy would be following God’s word? Look at it this way only you know if your strong enough to resist the temptation that could follow if y’all were to pursue this relationship however you may be setting yourself up for sexual compromise. I think it’s unfortunate though that he goes to church but still does those things that are not God like. But” just because he goes to church doesn’t make him a Christian just as standing in a garage doesnt make him a car” a good quote I love. Now I know it can be hard this life wasn’t meant to be easy. But as long as we can trust God with the situation everything will work out in the end. It kind of seems like you feel a bit of conviction so that could be a sign. But on another note if you know your not going to marry him, I think that what is the point of going into a relationship with him. We should date to look for a husband not just to date. You would be wasting your time and his. That could be hint of selfishness. You don’t want to do something you regret. Think about what would happen if the future if you were to have done something you regret with this guy imagine telling your husband the mistake you made, you would never want to hurt the person you love especially because of a dumb and reckless decision in the past! Also the possibility of you to pursuing each other would possibly make it harder for you to break it off in the future and maybe even feeling heart ache because you dedicated your time with him. Also this world is full of pure pressure where you can avoid sinning and falling into temptation it’s best to stay away. “You can’t stop the bird from flying over your head but you can stop it from making a nest in your hair” a quote from a book I once read. I say use this time to focus on God and when you do everything else will follow. Also just because you feel like everyone else is doing it you should too is not the way to look at it. Were meant to be the salt of the earth.““Let me tell you why you are here. You’re here to be salt-seasoning that brings out the God-flavors of this earth. If you lose your saltiness, how will people taste godliness? You’ve lost your usefulness and will end up in the garbage. “Here’s another way to put it: You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.” Matthew‬ ‭5:13-16‬ ‭therefore were meant to stand out and be different from everyone else because we are not of this world. Pray for God to give you wisdom and to make the right choice in this situation. Talk to him about it he loves when you do. I wish you the best! Good luck with everything I will be praying for you!

April 11, 2016 at 14:18
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Soccerfan99

@savannahLS like omg thank you. Like your amazing. I know its been forever since like I posted this and like the guy I talked about in the post hasn’t made any move so im happy but I’m still having “I want a boyfriend” problems so this helped A LOT thanks you ❤❤ you can quote stuff like I can quote tangled (I watch that movie like everyday lol) your amazing 👌❤

April 14, 2016 at 13:45
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SavannahLS

Wow, I recently checked back on this post cause you were on my mind And I just want to say thank you! That really helped me a lot because I recently started a blog called girlplusgod.com and like i don’t know how people were going to react to it so when you replied to me so positively it really gave me peace in heart about it so thank you so much!
As for the “I want a boyfriend” thing I COMPLETELY RELATE. I went through a time where that was all I wanted. I would tell myself yes God is enough but I want something a but more you know? It wasn’t until I let it go completely and gave it up to God when he showed me a vision of my future husband! I know it sounds crazy but I promise you it was real and amazing. However when after it I forgot exactly how he looked like I just knew he made me so happy. A couple days go by and my dad he is a pastor and I was going to a Toby Mac concert and he said I was going to see my husband there. That night I saw him not once not twice but three times! And It was like God told me that’s who he had for me. I felt it in my heart. I never talked to him but my dad told me I’m going to meet him VERY soon. And until then I’m more than happy to wait for him. Now I know some people don’t get an opportunity like this so I am not taking it for granted, however ask yourself why you really want a boyfriend. And when I was going through what you were I can honestly say I never really had an answer for it. It took some time but I gave it up to God and it’s so worth it! Who knows maybe in the future we do get married, talk about a testimony! Lol, I wish you the best, and really just pray and ask God to show you what you need to see, maybe you will see your husband too 😉

April 17, 2016 at 13:05
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Soccerfan99

Wow that’s amazing!! Your so blessed. Thanks I just need to accept that like you said. I’ve been getting better like its more like these waves of that. But this has helped me. So like I hope I’m not prying but how old are you? Like you seem like so full of knowledge and wise. It’s a compliment! 😋

April 19, 2016 at 13:17
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SavannahLS

Yeah! I completely understand!!! All we can do is pray about it and ask God to settle our hearts. Awesome! I’m so glad it has! I’m actually really young, I’m 14! Wbu? And your not prying 😆 And Thank you! That means so much!!! I pray for knowledge and wisdom 😂 and a lot of it too comes from my dad, if you think I have wisdom lol he’s got loads more 😂

April 22, 2016 at 12:53
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Soccerfan99

No way?! You seem older. I guess maybe its cuz my friends are just so immature 😂 well most of them. Anyways if your blog is anything like the advice you’ve given me it’ll be a success for sure

April 26, 2016 at 12:18
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SavannahLS

yes way! That’s what everyone says that i’m very mature but it’s because I’m the youngest of 5 and grew up around adults! As for the blog it is currently down! I was starting to get frustrated cause they said it wasn’t verified BUT I fixed it and so it should lord willing be up in a couple hours again! but thank you!

April 26, 2016 at 15:56
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Soccerfan99

Haha that makes sense 🙂 awe, im glad you have it back up! Good luck with it but im pretty sure itll be amazing

May 5, 2016 at 09:23
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