Hey girls! I have been in a confusing situation lately and would like advice. I am 13 and will be 14 in April, I am homeschooled, and I like to be involved in just about anything that gives an opportunity to witness. Lately though my youth group has not been very strong per say the youth leaders haven’t been very involved, the older people in the youth group aren’t standing up and leading, and the immaturity and growth in cliques is really sad. I don’t know what to do. My brother said I need to be an example and a leader, but like Timothy(in the Bible) I tend to be timid (Especially, when not talking to only friends or people I have never met). My brother also said to talk to the girls specifically and get to know them. I just feel like they don’t like me. My mom said that they are just intimidated by my genuineness but I don’t get it. I have known them all for a long time but I haven’t really known them. Any advice? I NEEN HELP!?!! :’(
|March 6, 2015 at 17:37|
Ugh, that’s what my youth group was like. I left. I don’t actually go to church anymore, but you probably want to. Try finding another group. I had friends who LOVED their groups, and the one I happened to be in was known to be sucky and cliqueish by all who were not in it, so I’m sure there are good ones out there somewhere!
|March 6, 2015 at 19:04|
Yea I agree with Slinky. Look for a different group. I had been with the same group of girls since middle school and I hated it so much. There was so much drama and disrespect to the leaders and so I just decided to leave. The only reason I stayed with that group for so long was because of our leader who was amazing but totally disrespected and deserved a much better group. Anyway, I ended up leaving and joining a different small group and I love it now. I’ve made a lot of new friends and there are some really great girls and leaders here. Being with a new group of people might help you enjoy going to church more.
|March 7, 2015 at 06:23|
… Are you me? I kid you not, at the begging of this school year, I was in the EXACT same situation with my youth group. How long has your group been like this? I’ve found that, seeing as the groups are made up of very flawed people, they do have times when they struggle and get awful. I really love the community at this youth group, though, so I decided to wait it out. It got better for mine, but I would encourage you to look around and see some other youth groups.
|March 7, 2015 at 09:40|
I thank you for replying, but I don’t want to leave. I have been in this church my whole life and the people in the church are practically my family. I love the Pastors and everyone in the church except for the problem with the youth group. I don’t want to give up I just want to find a way to resolve the problem.
This situation has been going on fro about 2 years gradually. They just don’t care and like you said are disrespectful. I can’t let my self give up on them they need the Lord and maybe God wants to use me in their lives. I just don’t know what I can do to help them.
|March 7, 2015 at 11:15|
Talk to your youth pastor then and see what can be done. One thing that my leader did when the girls in our group were having problems like this was she opened a bible study in her house on Monday nights for any girls who wanted to come. Of course, the girls who were disrespectful and cliquey didn’t go because they didn’t feel like it and all of the other girls showed up and it was great. We had topics that we went over every week and brought food and had a lot of fun with the people that we knew were serious about their relationship with God and wanted to learn. That’s just one thing that you can do that might help a lot.
|March 8, 2015 at 06:09|
This same thing happened to me last year!! We’d been going to the same church for about 4 years. The girls were all a little older than me. I had a really hard time making friends but no one really talked to me except for one girl! Basically, things kind of got to a point where my mom decided we were going to leave the church. Friends at this age, especially Christian Ones are so important because they will help you stay strong in your christian years. Since you don’t want to leave, I would suggest go to/starting a biblestudy for girls your age. It doesn’t necessarily have to have friends from your youth group! Invite your christian neighbors, maybe even people who go to another church! Ask people in your homeschool community to come.
|March 8, 2015 at 12:50|
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