Hello! This is my first day after a few months (maybe a year) of not being on here. *waves* I need advice.
Ok so there’s this guy (so cliché, right?) and we both really like each other.
There’s only one problem. My dad. The guy is black, and I’m white. Dad (not a Christian) would not approve. I am over 18 years old, but still live at home. Dad is very difficult, and has a bad temper. I’m scared that he would kick me out of the house and/or yell at me saying that he doesn’t approve. (That might be a worse case scenario, but I guess it’s a possibility), One of the ten commandments says to honor your mother and father. But does that apply to this? I mean does that commandment refer to literally everything, because if not, we all break it all the time, even adults.
Now the guy has no idea that the reason we aren’t together is because of dad. So I really don’t know what to do at this point. Unfortunately I messed up, and we have already kissed on the lips, so I am confused and don’t know what to do. This guy is Christian like me, and has a beautiful soul. He would never do anything to hurt me or anything. (I have known him for almost a year), So basically the only thing separating us is the fact that he is black and I’m white. 🙁 Advice?
|January 17, 2015 at 14:02|
|January 18, 2015 at 06:12|
Honoring your father and mother doesn’t always mean obeying them, especially when you are an adult. It means respecting them. You can respect someone and disagree with them.
|January 18, 2015 at 09:21|
You said that your dad “would not approve”, which means that you haven’t told him yet and he doesn’t know about this guy, so how can you be sure that he won’t approve? Get your dad to sit down and have a conversation with you and tell him about this guy and how great he is and ask him to at least give him a chance. You never really know what his reaction will be with this sort of thing, because some parents will be more accepting than others, but some are more selective and not always in a good way. If your dad doesn’t approve after meeting him, than you have to make the decision of whether you want to date regardless of your dad’s opinion, or not. While I don’t see anything wrong with you having a relationship with this guy, you have to remember that if you do decide to go out with him anyway, you could be risking your relationship with your father for another relationship. You are completely free to date who you chose, but that may have consequences in the long run. Just make sure that a relationship with this guy is really going to be worth it.
|January 19, 2015 at 06:07|
thank you for your advice 🙂
|January 19, 2015 at 13:18|
If your dad cant accept him than who cares,my mom is black and my dad is white both sides of my family are racist,and my mom married my dad despite what her family would think her.
|February 3, 2015 at 15:36|
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