There’s this guy that I met through my Speech and Debate competition league. Last year, when we were competing, we knew of each other, but didn’t really hang out a whole lot. Well . . . right around in may of this year, I chatted him over FB to ask a simple question about some art that he did. Well, from that he started asking questions, and before long we were chatting back and forth. When summer hit, it died out and we didn’t talk at all, but in the early fall/late summer, he chatted me again and we started talking. First, it was a few times a week, then every day. He got to travel down to where we live (he lives in a neighboring state) for an event that we were hosting. Well . . . it was kinda awkward since we hadn’t actually ever really hung out in person a whole lot. we had just texted. but eventually, near the end we warmed up a bit. We got back into texting a ton and were getting very close. A few weeks ago, our family traveled up to his state and stayed with his family for a Speech and Debate related thing. I was looking forward to actually getting to talk to him in person, but unfortunately, it was just so hectic and there were a few other people . . . so we barely got to talk, but there was a tension. we both wanted to talk. Anyway, after I got back from that, I suggested to him the idea of phone calls. He was more than thrilled with that, so we’ve been calling each other maybe two or three times a week. All of this time . . .I’ve been wondering . . . DOES HE LIKE ME??? It started out as just friends, but neither one of us has said that we are “just friends” or stated that we like each other. To me, he’s the perfect guy. He’s a great Christian, we have similar dreams, I think he’s pretty cute :D, he’s got a great sense of humor, and he’s also very genuinely outgoing and incredibly kind. The thing is . . . because he IS so genuinely outgoing and kind, it’s been terrible for me trying to figure out if he likes me or not. There’s definitely different signs that he does that are classics, but I’m not sure if that’s because he likes me or because he’s just being nice. We’re pretty close, and I value his friendship SO much. I can talk to him about my spiritual issues, and he talks to me about his. He understands me better than any of my friends ever has. he GETS it. but I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO. I want to figure out where this is going. I don’t want to be led on. (which I know he wouldn’t purposefully lead me on) I’ve sent certain texts of his to me to my girl friends and my guy friends. Both say from those that he definitely likes me. but . . . he HASN’T ACTUALLY SAID IT. Another component to this . . . is that he’s had a previous relationship that ended REALLY badly. I want to find out . . . but I don’t want to pressure him into anything or make him feel rushed to say things when he’s not ready. I just don’t know what to do. Do I let myself potentially be led on? or do I try to find out? HELP PLEASE!!!!! (Thank you for reading the novel :D)
|December 2, 2014 at 19:44|
Aww, hon. I can’t help you understand what’s going on, but I can say I absolutely know what you’re feeling. I was there a while ago, and it was really frustrating. I hope things work out for you, because it sounds like you two have lots in common. 🙂
|December 6, 2014 at 17:18|
Thanks SignerGirl! Yeah . . . I keep going back and forth on saying something or not. Part of me thinks it would be a good idea just to go on and get it out there . . . but we’re both working on some projects together that will last a couple months. I’m afraid that if it goes south, it will be really awkward if one or both of us needs space after it. It’s torture though not to know and to not know what to do about it. 🙁
|December 7, 2014 at 18:06|
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