So there’s this guy that I’ve been friends with for a while, since middle school and now I’m a sophomore and he’s a junior. We’ve been really close and texted almost every day until the last few months. (We don’t go to the same school and we don’t really hangout much) He’s slowly started talking to me less and less and I was always the first to start the conversation, and now we haven’t even spoken in weeks. I though he might not want to be my friend anymore, so I talked to my best friend about it, who is also close to him, and she said he talked to her and he’s really depressed and that he’s also been drinking a whole lot. I think he didn’t tell me because he knows I’m a strong Christian and was worried about how I would respond. I’m not supposed to let him know that I know about what’s going on with him, but I’m really worried about him and I love him too much (in a purely friend way) to let anything happen to him. I’m just not sure what to do and how to help him.
|August 17, 2015 at 21:55|
Hello lovelikeJesus99! Seeing that you’re not supposed to let this friend of yours know that you know of his plight, I think a better way to help him would be to subtly address his issues, but not in a way that he’d absolutely suspect that someone told you of it. One way you could help, since you are a Christian and He knows, is to tell Him that Jesus is the answer to all his problems internally. You don’t have to go flat out and address his depression and drinking, but what you could say is that Jesus loves him and is the only one who can make Him whole. Tell him there is hope in Christ and that He is the only true fulfillment he’ll have, that Christ wants him and will care for him no matter what. He needs God at this point in his life and you could help lead him to the knowledge of our one and only Hope.
“But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect”– 1 Peter 3:15
“Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit,and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”–Matt 28:20
I’m sure at this point, you have been called to lead him to the Lord. Always offer to be a listening ear to him, a friend he can trust, and be someone who shows him the love of God. That would be the best you could do for him, alongside praying for him and his salvation and overall well being. I’ll also be praying for you, that God uses you for His glory in this situation and gives you the wisdom to be a witness to your friend.
Much love 🙂
|August 18, 2015 at 17:07|
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