Hey dear PI’ers.
This post is for you if, like me, are upset over the outcome of this election. I can’t say I was surprised over the outcome, but I was horrified. I feel, more than anything, that fear won yesterday.
Though I was not particularly fond of either president, Donald Trump’s morality and attitude are so out of line with the person of Jesus and the ideas Jesus spread that it makes me sick.
On facebook this morning and last night during the election, a couple of people shared incredibly beautiful, truthful posts. I can’t link them (cuz it’s FB, but I’ll copy and paste them below. Please read them! They will make you feel a little better.) Now onto what I want to say.
Guys. Trump won the election. But it is up to us to decide who we want to be. Despite who is in office, we can still be strong, well-educated, intelligent women who will under no circumstances put up with sexist remarks or actions.
We will still stand up for and protect minorities. We can still be inclusive and supportive of the LGBT community, Muslims, Syrian refugees and everyone else Trump has mocked and degraded.
So much power rests in our hands. As the Dalai Lama said, “Western women will save the world.”
Fear may have won the battle, but love and justice will win the war.
****I ask that if you support Trump and want to argue that he is somehow misunderstood to please go to another thread.
|November 9, 2016 at 09:18|
This is from Elizabeth Gilbert. It’s loooooong. But so good!
As Beyonce once sang, “We woke up in the kitchen, saying ‘How the heck did this happen?'”
I did not want this outcome. I did not expect this outcome. I did not in any universe imagine that this outcome ever could have occurred — and the fact that I did not imagine it as possible means that clearly I have been out of touch with the hearts and minds of millions of my fellow Americans. I cannot say that I understand them. I certainly don’t agree with them. And yet this is the world we wake up to today.
Every single day, you must face whatever world you have woken up to — whatever that may be. That’s the only world you get. You must start there.
Let me tell you what happened in our home last night.
I settled in with Rayya, to watch the returns — relaxed and certain that we were about to watch a historic and joyful moment: The election of the first woman to the presidency of the United States of America. Then it all started to slide. Then came the stress. Then came the growing anxiety. Then the panic started. Then: FLORIDA. (Always Florida. What are we gonna do with you, Florida?) Everyone I follow on Twitter was suddenly hysterical. Text messages of horror started flying around across the world. The global financial markets began to collapse. Foreign leaders started losing their cool.
Around 11pm, I found myself in this state: Huddled on the couch in the fetal position, clutching a pillow, eyes wide, speechless, paralyzed with fear.
That’s never good, right?
I’ve been there before, and that is NEVER good.
At that moment, I closed my eyes and asked myself to observe what was going on my physical body. What I felt was a sickened stomach, shaking hands, a clenched chest, shallow breathing, a wild and uncontrolled mind, and an elevated heart rate. This is exactly what happens to an animal when it is being hunted.
At that moment, I asked myself, “Is this a helpful response, Liz?”
If I believe that I am here to serve the world (and I DO believe that I am here to serve the world), then how does it help anyone if I am feeling and acting like a hunted animal? Answer: It doesn’t help. Feeling hunted and trapped doesn’t serve me, and it doesn’t serve anyone.
This is when Rayya and I made a decision to turn off every single electrical device in the house and GET REAL. We stepped away from the television, from the social media, from the phones. Because we knew that RIGHT NOW, we needed to find calm. These are the moments when it’s time to find out who you really are — and who you can really be.
We lit a candle, sat with each other in quiet prayer for a while, and then we each asked aloud the big question: “Who do I want to be in this situation?”
This is a question that we ask in our house a lot these days. This is a question Rayya has taught me over the years to always ask myself, when goes down, or when the world goes crazy, or when the panic starts to rise: “Who do I want to be in this situation?”
This is the question that Rayya and I asked of ourselves six months ago, when the doctors found signs of tumors on Rayya’s pancreas and liver, and it didn’t look good. I remember the day she went in for her CT scan, to confirm just how bad the situation really was. We woke up that day in a panic. We were both experiencing the standard human response to scary situations. We were undone. We both felt like: “We are terrified and anxious, and we will be terrified and anxious until we find out the results of this CT scan. We will not be at peace until we know what’s going on. And if the results are horrible, we will totally fall apart.”
But then we stopped, checked ourselves, and we asked, “REALLY?”
Was that true? Was it true that we could not be at peace RIGHT NOW — even if we didn’t know the outcome, or even if the outcome promised to be horrible?
So we got really quiet that day, and we each asked: “Who do I want to be in this situation?”
The answers came, same as ever:
Once we answered that question, we found our peace. Because THAT PART was up to us — who we would decide to be, regardless the outcome. And once we found our center again, we were able to walk into that hospital with relaxed breathing, clear eyes, steady hands, and resolute hearts. We were able to find peace BEFORE we even knew the results. And a few days later, the results came: CANCER. Not just any cancer, but terminal cancer! But by that time, we were were at peace. We were ready, because we knew who we were. And once again, facing this difficult situation, the only question on the table became, “Who do I want to be in this situation?”
That is the only question that EVER really matters.
I insist that we can learn — with practice — how to choose our emotional state in all situations. This has to be true. If this isn’t true, then we are TRULY AND THOROUGHLY DONE — because our state of being is literally the only thing in this world that we can control.
This is not denial. This is not complacency. This not me cheerfully saying, “Oh well! I’m sure everything will be fine!” Sometimes things are not fine. Sometimes the diagnosis is terminal cancer. Sometimes the dark forces win. Sometimes the outcome is dreadful.
But all our practices in peace and grace and equanimity and courage are for TIMES LIKE THESE — for times when you do not get the outcome that you want. This is when it matters. When the *** goes down, and the **** goes wrong, and when the **** gets real — that’s when the **** gets interesting. That’s when the test comes: Who will you be now? Right now. Right this moment. Because that’s the only part that is up to you.
So last night, Rayya and I decided to go to sleep without waiting up to find out who won the presidency. We decided to keep the phones off, and the TV off. We decided to step away from the burning vehicle of global panic. We decided that — when the world is trampling itself in a stampede of fear and anger — we will not join the stampede. In the same way that we decided six months ago to find peace in our hearts BEFORE we got the biopsy results, we decided last night to find peace in our hearts BEFORE we got the election results.
We prayed and mediated and coached each other through until our hearts and minds and bodies were at peace. Then we woke up to THIS world, and the same question as ever: “Who do I want to be in this situation?”
Decide who you will be today, Dear Ones. RIght now. DECIDE. You can do this. This is what all your training and practice has led you to. Show the people around you what a calm and peaceful strong mind looks like. (Trust me, they need it. They already know what a panicked mind looks like; show them what a calm mind looks like.) Ask yourself again and again who you want to be, and believe that you can be it.
Nobody gets to take your emotional state away from you, unless you give it to them.
This is how you lead. This is who you are. This is how you BE.
Here we go.
**** There was a bit of language in the post that I removed, if I missed any, my apologies; but the post was too good not to share.
|November 9, 2016 at 09:25|
|November 9, 2016 at 09:28|
Not here to argue, but just wanted to say that even though Trump is not a perfect person, no one is. As Christians, we have to vote for the conservative one who is anti abortion, anti gays, anti all the stuff we are against. If we compare the two candidates, Hilary is way worse than Donald. She has committed felonies, she killed the Benghazi’s, she is a liar, a thief, and all the things she is. If the WORST you can say about Trump is that he is disrespectful, that is good. Because NO ONE is perfect. The media tries to make Trump look horrible and they’ve done a pretty darn good job. It is sad when I see people who call themselves Christians say how horrible Trump is when obviously he is the most conservative and Hilary has done way worse. I also might add, if you express your opinion for everyone to see, expect someone to disagree. All I am saying is don’t be so judgmental of Trump because he was our only conservative option. Yes, he is not perfect, but no one is. Personally, I am happy Trump won because he isn’t going to let illegal immigrants in, he doesn’t believe in killing babies at 9 months , ect ect ect. We have to settle for the lesser of two evils as my mom says. If Trump really meant what he said about making our country great again, I say we trust him.
|November 9, 2016 at 11:03|
“Nobody gets to take your emotional state away from you, unless you give it to them.”
Thanks for sharing, AdventureGirl 🙂
|November 9, 2016 at 12:47|
|November 9, 2016 at 13:22|
I was very shocked when I woke up this morning. We – in Germany – all thought that Clinton would win. They actually did a poll on how we would vote, if we had to, and Trump would have gotten about 4% of the votes.
I am still in shock.
Somebody who brags about sexually harrassing women is not fit to be a president of any nation, no matter for which party. And he’s certainly not Christian. No one is perfect, but most people actually get how to be polite and it’s kind of a useful skill when you deal with international politics.
And “as Christians”, you are not obliged to vote for anybody. Nobody has been forced to vote for Trump. It was their free will and they are completely responsible for supporting someone who has absolutely no decency, no sense for economy and acts like a kindergardener.
|November 9, 2016 at 14:09|
@Nino~You’re welcome 🙂
@Wolf~ Exactly! His bragging of sexual assault was really disturbing, it was actually the main thing that made me vote for Hillary. He is entirely unfit for office.
|November 9, 2016 at 14:38|
Maybe we can impeach him. One can hope.
|November 9, 2016 at 14:41|
Trump is NOT a paragon of virtue, BUT he will protect Christianity 🙂 Besides, it’s our job to make sure that we can do what we can to save lives 😉 I can’t believe Christians would vote for Democrats who are hostile to Christianity. IMO
|November 9, 2016 at 14:51|
He certainly didn’t seem concerned with protecting anyone when he was sexually harassing a married woman. Or mocking a disabled reporter. Or degrading war veterans by saying John McCain wasn’t a hero because he was captured, put in a POW camp and tortured. How sick.
No, the only thing he wants is power. He’s not concerned with protecting Christian values.
|November 9, 2016 at 15:11|
As I told you he is not perfect, nor a paragon of virtue. But you can’t ignore Hillary’s vicious past either. He isn’t a Christian. But just because he isn’t a Christian doesn’t mean God can’t use him, and he won, so that must mean God wanted him over Hillary.
|November 9, 2016 at 15:26|
Will o the Wisp
Trump can only be impeached if he commits a hefty crime while in the White House. Two presidents have been impeached: Johnson and Clinton. Johnson for ignoring Congress and Clinton for repeatedly lying while under oath as well as forcing others to lie for him. Overall bad situations.
|November 9, 2016 at 16:21|
*chimes in* Did someone say argue? 😀
@theteenfashionista Which democrats are “hostile to Christianity?”
@AdventureGirl I enjoyed all of that you posted, thank you. 😀
|November 9, 2016 at 20:41|
There’s more to preventing abortion then just prohibiting them, and so far Trump hasn’t come up with a convincing strategy. And honestly, it is already very hard, if not impossible, for people in some states to get an abortion.
The problem is that you can’t be against abortion and against sex ed at the same time, because sex ed is one of the key solutions to abortion. Other solutions to reduce the number of abortions are easy access to contraception, better support for moms of any age, race, class etc, especially when they’re unmarried…(Trump plans to grant married women a six week paid maternity leave, which is nice, but when it would be for every woman, it would be useful to fight abortion, because most women that abort are not married and could really need this extra money). Oh, and preventing rape and incest would also be very nice because you can’t force a girl that got pregnant from rape or incest to carry to term. You just can’t.
|November 9, 2016 at 23:55|
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