Sooooo idk if it’s just because most of my friends are dating or married or what, but I’ve felt so pressured lately to find a bf. Not by anyone in particular, I just feel like people expect it from me. (I’m 20, and I haven’t had a bf before)
The thing is…I don’t really see the point in dating if I’m not ready to get married. And I’m not! I’m no where near that point yet. To be clear, I’m not against it, I probably will date at sometime in the near future, I just don’t want to right now.
I’d rather focus on school, friendships, travel, getting my life together etc. than relationships.
I think part of the reason too is that I have some issues w/ my family (lots of drama, past problems and hurt feelings that have never been taken care of, what fun, what fun 😛 ) and I can’t take any more drama in my life right now.
On a slightly different note, I also feel like I can never be who I really am, I just turn myself into what I think other people want me to be. Idk, I’m just frustrated with myself right now. I hate it when I feel like I can’t be me.
|March 11, 2016 at 18:27|
I totally relate! To be honest I’m not just single, but actually celibate by choice in order to focus more on the Lord. If it’s what makes you happy and it’s not sinful, then go for it and don’t worry. Remember this Bible verse:
An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world–how she can please her husband. 1 Corinthians 7:34
|March 25, 2016 at 11:02|
Yes! Other people who feel this way, too. I’m almost 21 and perpetually single because I like it. Just about all my friends want to get into relationships and get married, and I just enjoy the single life. 🙂
Schwibz: Just curious, what’s the difference between single and celebate? Does that mean you’ll stay single long term?
|March 28, 2016 at 12:17|
Marcy: Yes, I think that’s the difference for me. In my opinion if you’re ‘just single’ you remain single until the opportune time, so to speak, I mean until you meet the guy you’d like to date/go out with. If you’re celibate it means you are single by choice and for a certain reason, for example in my case, to be more focused on the Lord (I am not saying that people are in relationships or married are not focused on God, but I am saying that relationships really do distract me personally 🙂 ) So yeah I hope it clears it up. I enjoy the single/celibate life myself 🙂 I don’t really feel lonely or bored as several of my courting/dating friends suggest.
|March 31, 2016 at 03:28|
John 14:27 NIV “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”
|March 31, 2016 at 10:25|
Thanks! I’m just single, but I don’t understand why people often assume that’s boring or lonely. I don’t feel that way at all, either. 🙂 I’m curious, if you don’t mind me asking, how did you come to that decision? Also, I’m assuming you’re going to be celebate long term, or is it just for a set amount of time? I hope you don’t mind all the questions!
|March 31, 2016 at 12:13|
I can totally relate to your post. I am also twenty and have never had a boyfriend. I’ve never been on a date or for this fact really hung out with guys. I think the world definitely tries to pressure us. Stay strong and know you aren’t the only one! In addition, I have my own blog and just recently wrote about this subject manner. It might be useful for you to check out!:)
|May 17, 2016 at 09:24|
I am single (not ready to mingle) and a senior in college. About to “get out”… woohoo. Many of my friends are in serious relationships and I keep getting asked the same question about who I am “seeing.” I totally relate to the pressure and I know it’s going to get worse over the next few years but I am glad that I am not alone.
|September 30, 2016 at 08:16|
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