I am a senior in high school & I am struggling. I’m struggling on figuring on the real me & who my real friends are & what I really want for my life. My family & friends make it really hard to be myself. I have hidden the real me for as long as I can remember & it’s truly exhausting. Me & my family don’t talk like we used to . All I see is blame being placed on one another , so I hide most of “my life” from them. I feel uncomfortable living like this. Is this living? Do I really have a say on how I live my life? Do I have a right to be able to be the real me or no? How do you really know who you are?
|November 29, 2014 at 19:27|
It’s ok to take a long time to figure out yourself, and life in general.
This will sound odd, but the best way to know who you really are is to forget about yourself. When you are constantly thinking about what others think of you, or viewing yourself from another’s perspective, it’s really a form of self-absorption.
I don’t mean to sound harsh, it’s just that I went through the exact same thing and when someone told me what I’m telling you it made all the difference. When I quit thinking about myself, it was like the person I really am was able to come out because I wasn’t concerned about what other people think about me. I just didn’t think about it.
I don’t really think about myself, I think of other’s feelings instead of my own, and just always try to do what I think is right–what God would want me to do.
Does this make any sense? I know it seems like a paradox, but it really works!
When you forget yourself–especially the image you’re trying to uphold–you’ll be able to step into who you really are. Remember, it’s really not important what any person thinks about you. Live to please God, not people.
Proverbs says fearing people is a dangerous trap–this includes fearing other’s thoughts about you.
Oh and just as a side note: we should love people–a lot– but you can love without worrying or caring about what they think of you 🙂
|November 29, 2014 at 20:20|
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