About 9 months ago, at a church event, I met a cute, smart, sweet, and caring guy. We exchanged numbers and began talking frequently. We hung out and got to know eachother and eventually he became my first boyfriend. He did everything right, told me anything to make me happy, and was a smooth talker. I was naive and thought I could trust anyone, and I felt that this is what God had wanted for me because it was a healthy relationship, I didn’t feel pressured to do anything and we didn’t do anything sinful (I want to wait until marriage and we discussed boundaries). However, within a few months, without a warning or any communication on the manner, this same boy broke up with me out of the blue. He said we lived too far apart (15min) and that he liked me too much to the point of it being too hard not to see me everyday (instead of trying to see me more). I knew this wasn’t the truth and I was very upset. I felt betrayed, hurt, and confused. I didn’t understand why God had given me a glimpse of such happiness only to take it away so quickly.
|September 23, 2015 at 05:37|
Hi, so I jist wanted to say that one thing that really stuck with me about what you said was, “God doesn’t bless you with something that will take your focus away from Him.” I’ve asked God the question, “Why am I still single?” a few times and I’ve come to the realization that I am not a point in my walk woth God where my main focus is God and I believe God won’t give me another distraction. Yes, I would love to have a boyfriend whom I could marry one day but if I can’t focus on God solely right now while I’m single, then how could I possibly focus more on Him when I have someone else I would want to focus on? I used to have the mindset that, “Maybe I can’t focus on God first right now but of I had a godly boyfriend then he could motivate me to grow closer to God.” How wrong is that? I realize now how wrong it is. God is FIRST always!! Thank you for posting this is just opened up my eyes even more. If have any advice on what could help me stay focused on growing closer to God that would be amazing! Once again thank you for posting this and I’m keeping you in my prayers! 😊💗❤
|September 23, 2015 at 07:49|
Hi, thank you so much for your reply! I’m glad my words have stuck with you, and your words have stuck with me as well. You’re totally right about how if you’re not able to focus 100% on God while you’re single, how it would be even harder with a boyfriend to do so. I often ask God the same question as you mentioned, “Why am I single?” And I’ve found that there is no other answer other than our “relationship status” being single is God speaking to us saying, “You are in a relationship with Me.” Its a safe bet that a lot of girls our age are out looking for relationships, and yes- of course I wouldn’t mind having someone to talk to and someone who cares about me- but the truth is, we already have all that and MORE through Christ. How many girls can say their boyfriends died or would die for them (at 17)? I know that my future husband is out there, and that right now this is God’s time to use me and help me grow with my relationship with Him in order to bring others to know Jesus. If I can be a shining light to just one person in the next few years, just by being single and focusing solely on God and my relationship with Him, then I know that all of this was worth it. And I know that the blessings I receive later in life with my husband and family will be even greater because our God is capable of that and more.
|September 23, 2015 at 18:51|
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