I have a crush on a guy who is a third white and 2 thirds black. I’ve heard my youth pastor say as long as they are a christian, it’s not a big deal. But I don’t know if my family will approve. Opinions?
|January 1, 2015 at 10:10|
I see no problem with interracial dating and I think it’s actually really beautiful that we have learned to accept each other so much more throughout the past several decades. It’s really not a big deal as long as he loves Christ. It really depends on what you think of his personality, not his skin color, and definitely not of racial stereotypes that there might be. If your family is holding onto racial stereotypes, then there might be a problem, but if they see past those and really get to know this guy as a person just like them, then all will be good 🙂 Also, be aware that it may be a bit harder to get grandparents to approve. Since they lived closer to that time of intense discrimination, they most likely have stronger views about race. When I had a huge crush on a black guy, my parents were totally cool with it and saw him and treated him like any other guy I had a crush on. Don’t be afraid to talk to them about it and if they don’t approve right away, don’t be afraid to introduce them and share your opinion on the matter. Good luck 🙂
|January 1, 2015 at 11:42|
To be honest, there’s no way to oppose interracial relationships on the basis of racial differences without being racist. So people who oppose you ARE in the wrong here.
|January 2, 2015 at 12:43|
Some of my family is holding on to racial stereotypes and he is a christian. My mom doesn’t get it. Oh well.
|January 2, 2015 at 19:15|
Make sure the two of you spend some time with your mom. You don’t necessarily have to have a serious awkward conversation between the three of you, but maybe invite him to spend some time with your family. Maybe invite him to a family dinner or to just hang around next time you go to the movies or bowling or whatever :p The more your family spends time with him and sees what a great person he is, the more they will accept him.
|January 3, 2015 at 08:51|
Just try to break down your parents’ stereotyping little by little. Interracial relationships shouldn’t even have to be addressed. There’s nothing different about them. I’m rooting for you two and I don’t even know you haha 🙂 Good luck!
|January 3, 2015 at 21:29|
Thanks for the advice, but my family is being abnormally rude about it.
|January 5, 2015 at 21:26|
If your family disapproves, they’re racist, and being kinda stupid.
|January 6, 2015 at 12:17|
Eesh i know how you feel a little bit because my current and last boyfriends were both mexican and my grandmother is extremely racist. i still dont know how to deal with it, but you’re not alone!
|January 10, 2015 at 21:36|
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