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MacDawn1999

MacDawn1999

Hellooooooo beautiful people! Has anyone else ever struggled with wanting to know a boys intentions in his compliments and the way he talks to you? Because that is where I am at right now. He is a great Christian guy, and I would like to believe that his intentions are pure and he’s not just leading me on… but I want to KNOW for sure. Is that a bad thing? I will not be led on. I am doing my best to guard my heart and not just make assumptions that he really does like me… should I ask him what his intentions are? Has anyone else gone through this? (personal experience, helping someone go through it, watching it happen, etc) Any and all advice completely welcome! 🙂

October 17, 2016 at 06:35
mimiroland123

mimiroland123

Boys can be sooo confusing. Sometimes they give you mixed signals. When I was younger there was this guy who messed with all the girls in my youth group asking them if they liked him and kept trying to lead them on including myself until we agreed that we did have feelings for him and when we did he was like “who said I like you like that”? It was so mean and he did that with so many girls. He just liked the fact that a bunch of girls thought he was cute and that is not right to lead them on. I think it is perfectly okay to ask a guy who compliments you and talks to you in a way that makes you think he likes you what his intention are. You DEF need to guard your heart. I am glad you are already doing that. Just make sure this guy isn’t trying to lead you on and make sure you know him well enough before asking his intentions.

October 20, 2016 at 18:55
MacDawn1999

MacDawn1999

Yes I’ve known him my whole life so that shouldn’t be a problem. The part I’m having trouble with is that I can’t date, so even if I ask him what his intentions are, and he likes me, it’s not like I can do anything about it? And I’m not even sure how to word that question if I ask him cuz I don’t want to just be like HEY DO YOU LIKE ME I THINK YOU DO ya know??? Plus, I believe the guy should lead in the relationship so would this be me pushing it? Cuz I don’t want to do that…
Thank you for your advice and responding 🙂

October 21, 2016 at 08:06
mimiroland123

mimiroland123

I understand. I am allowed to have a boyfriend but we can’t go on dates lol so basically it is pointless. If you don’t mind asking me, how old are you? I honestly don’t think it would be pushing it, but maybe kinda wait it out a little bit since you can’t really date. Try to see if he will initiate it first. God’s got this. IF it is meant to be, everything will work out properly. Praying for you.

October 21, 2016 at 11:33
theteenfashionista

theteenfashionista

Really, don’t stress yourself out over it. Guys will come and go 😀

October 21, 2016 at 12:33
ArtiseyDisneyGal

ArtiseyDisneyGal

Hi friend!
So I know you’ve already got some help with this but I guess I can try and give a different perspective on things.
So I believe that if you truly do like this guy and you want to know his intentions, just be upfront and ask! It’ll clear up a lot of stuff and (hopefully he won’t find it weird that you asked him if the answer turns out to be no) put you at ease a bit.
Even though you cannot date, I think it’s good to know. I’m going through the exact same thing to where currently me and my best guy friend both like each other but I am not allowed to be in a relationship, so we’re taking it slow. A really good thing to do is be upfront with your parents about everything, as hard as that may feel sometimes. I feel like if you have a parent (or adult and or pastor) to talk to about all of this, they can help you with your next step. Pray and ask God if He wants you to make a move or what to say.

If you have any more questions, don’t hesitate to ask! I’m more than glad to help, much love and I’m praying for you

October 21, 2016 at 21:57
MacDawn1999

MacDawn1999

Thank you guys! To answer mimi’s question I am 2 weeks short of being 17. And yes, I realize guys will come and go, but I wouldn’t say I’m stressing over this. It would just be nice to know… ya know? I’m actually really hoping he will initiate it first because I don’t want to be initiating this relationship but at the same time… :/ haha So ArtiseyDisneyGal any ideas on how to ask him if I decide to? How did you and your guy friend clear the air on this since you like each other? I’m trying to be upfront with my parents I’ve talked about this with my dad and he says I’m doing a good job not leading him on and acting like I could date him so 🙂 I’ve been praying a lot… like… all the time cuz I’m so clueless haha!

October 24, 2016 at 06:24
ArtiseyDisneyGal

ArtiseyDisneyGal

Hey! Sorry it took me so long to get back to you, I’ve been fairly busy.
Anyways, I feel like it may be pretty cliche but ask something along the lines of, “So, do you want to take this a step further?” Or something as simple as, “I like you.”
What my guy friend and I ended up doing was just one day, he came up to me and was like, “So I just wanted to you to know that, I like you.” I mean that’s so simple, yet it does work.

Though I’m so glad you’ve been talking to your dad! That’s a fantastic start and I think you’re doing absolutely wonderful. Keep on praying and seeing where the Lord wants to lead you!

October 30, 2016 at 23:09
MacDawn1999

MacDawn1999

I would love to tell him I like him!! But I believe he should initiate the first step. I don’t want to be like “yo i kinda like you” and him be like well I wanted to tell you first or something. But I also dont want to just assume he likes me cuz I HAAAATEEE doing that lol. Any ideas? :////

October 31, 2016 at 06:00
ArtiseyDisneyGal

ArtiseyDisneyGal

Ooh yeah that does make sense!

I think you should just wait it out, because if he does indeed like you, then he’ll let you know sooner or later! At this point, i’d suggest sitting back and waiting on the Lord for His next step.

November 4, 2016 at 22:16
MacDawn1999

MacDawn1999

Amen to that sister 🙂 Thank ya!

November 7, 2016 at 06:03
Project Inspired

sesenena

Guys are confusing sometimes 🙂
I don’t think there is anything inherently wrong in asking a guy if he likes you but there are a couple things to think about in advance:
1. If he likes you too, then what? Will you be able to continue being friends even thought you know that you like each other?
2. If he doesn’t like you, will disappointment ruin your friendship? Will you be able of not being embarrassed around him?
Hugs!

November 23, 2016 at 13:22
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