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Is being a flirt bad?

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loveoutloud

loveoutloud

Hi Lovelies!
So, for the past four months or so, I have been told I’m a flirt pretty constantly. Which kinda confuses me, because I’m not trying to be a flirt. But, I guess that’s how I’m coming across.
I think it’s because I’ve grown up with almost all brothers, but I do tend to feel comfortable around guys. Like, I’m not afraid to speak my mind, and if they’re shoving each other and joking around, I get right in the thick of it. I laugh at their jokes, and if they mess with my hair, I mess with theirs right back. I’m not afraid to slug my guy friends, and I’m not afraid to shove them either.
So, if that makes me a flirt, whatever.
But, a lot of the people act like I’m walking around asking people to break my heart or to ask me out or whatever. They act as if my being comfortable with guys is a bad thing, like it makes me more likely to get pregnant before I turn 18, or whatever. What do you girls think? is having a flirtatious personality a bad thing? (note: I’m not talking about flirting like you see high school and college couples doing, with the dirty talking and the implications and whatever. I’m talking just kinda… ya know. Ending up being a flirt, even if you didn’t mean to.)

November 23, 2014 at 22:06
Marcy

Marcy

If you’re not trying to get their attention because you find them attractive, I don’t really think that you’re flirting, so you’re not a flirt in the first place. 🙂 Being confident with guys doesn’t seem like a bad thing, though you probably should be aware that they might fall for you because, hey, you’re an attractive girl who they are comfortable around, and that could be awkward for you. Otherwise, I don’t really see being confident leading to trouble with guys. If anything, being confident could help you out in some ways.

November 23, 2014 at 22:18
AdventureGirl

AdventureGirl

You’re. Not. Being. A. Flirt! AHHHH that drives me crazy when people say that because I get that all the time too. I’m pretty friendly and whenever I start talking to guys we always end up laughing and joking around, and somehow people think that’s flirting?!?! (I actually made a post about this too a few days ago!)

Idk why people CANNOT comprehend that girls and guys can be friends without being romantic. Maybe it’s because culture is so over-sexualized. Anyway, don’t stop being you, because you are awesome, and I think it’s great that you are so comfortable with guys.

In answer to your actual question though, I think being an intentional flirt isn’t a good thing–idk that it’s sinful but I just would never want to lead someone into thinking I like them when I don’t. I take relationships really seriously.

However, your personality is definitely not bad!! You are friendly which is actually really good!! You can’t control what other people think of you, so I wouldn’t even worry about it. 🙂

November 24, 2014 at 08:26
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