No porn, no explicit movies or magazines, and no real-life guys. But I can’t get rid of these destructive thoughts and fantasies. I know they are evil, and I feel insecure and vulnerable after I think about it. But I can’t relate to porn addicts or people who are/were sexually active. I’m a virgin and I’ve never looked at porn, and movies and books like 50 shades…they creep me out. So there’s no appeal there, either. But almost every night I have this battle with creepy thoughts or fantasies of my future intimacy. I know it’s wrong, I do. But there seems to be no advice or testimonies for people like me: who are in-between-ish. I’m not saying that worried it WILL turn into something more. I know it won’t. But I’ve struggled with these inappropriate daydreams for YEARS and I hope that someone out there can relate. I cry out to God and try and fill my mind with scripture, but it seems to always sneak in and overcome me. Help, please.
|February 6, 2015 at 05:29|
You are definitely not the only one. I would just like to remind you that *you* are in charge of your daydreams and fantasies. Ask God to convict you the moment you start daydreaming, then focus on something else. Read about what the Bible says about intimacy in marriage, so that you will know how to have a happy, pure sex life when you get married.
|February 8, 2015 at 11:55|
I’ve struggled with the same thing for years. It is hard and I’m not going to say that every time I have sexual thoughts I rebuke it, because I don’t even though I know that I should. I will say that even though these thoughts are wrong and not of God, we are sexual beings and these thoughts are normal when you’re young. It could really help you though to get an accountability partner, someone that you can trust so that when you do have a low point you have someone you can talk to that can also agree with in prayer. This has helped me a lot in the past. Know that you’re never alone and God is always with you.
|February 24, 2015 at 03:57|
I am actually struggling with this too… when I see the guys at university I feel as though I am looking at them in an inappropriate way, and it’s so hard because sometimes you do it unknowingly because it has become something so casual. I feel as though i am struggling to remain pure in all aspects of my life, thoughts included. I pray and ask God for forgiveness but suddenly i keep doing it again and i see how that sin has pulled me away from God and it’s awful!
|March 3, 2015 at 18:16|
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