I posted this because I’ve been wondering this a lot lately. I get the impression it’s bad or wrong to like boys, and I even get embarrassed about wanting to be someone’s friend. My mom even seems to get mad sometimes. In my old youth group, I really liked this one boy, and at one point he even liked me back. It was obvious; staring at me, blushing when I caught him, looking at me and flipping his hair, or he would stop and stare, walking by me or my chair a lot, etc Even his best friend who was my friend, encouraged his flirting and talking with me, but then it turned out he didn’t like me and liked another girl. I’m kind of mad why my friend encouraged it but got involved when it turned out his friend didn’t like me to make sure I was ok. He was obviously flirting and he liked me first. The rest of the group found out after that and one boy was really mean to me! He would say is that “so-and-so’s girlfriend?” and give me a mischievous look. He was up to no good. He was even mean when I wanted to be his friend. He never really talked to me, but I was deeply embarrassed by what my friends told him about me; my hearing loss, nervousness. He did start out being nice to me in the youth group at first. Him and his brother, who liked me back. That was obvious too. I left that youth group because I felt like there was too much of telling everyone everything.
After that, I feel like it’s wrong or bad to like boys or people in general. I get so nervous now. Especially if people look me in the eye in the halls at school-like they can see right through me. I do have one good friend though! I worry if I like my friends more than they like me, but I can tell she just totally adores me! And when I come over, her family seems to enjoy my company. They are all really sweet and nice, even her younger brother. I was scared to laugh once, but he encouraged it very nicely. She would never be mean to me if I liked him, and he might be flattered someone older likes him, but why couldn’t more people have been nicer or flattered? or are people only flattered when kids with special needs like them? I have a hearing loss, so I could fall into that category. Some of these people’s reactions make me think I’m a disgusting person and scared to like anyone. Any words or wisdom? Thanks girls!
|September 19, 2015 at 16:51|
I hope I helped! <3
|September 29, 2015 at 07:26|
|September 29, 2015 at 16:57|
You helped so much! Thank you! I feel better knowing someone can understand
|October 10, 2015 at 06:38|
It’s so not wrong to like someone. It’s a perfectly natural thing. I think it has more to do with what you do with those desires than actually having those desires.
|October 26, 2015 at 21:24|
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