|December 12, 2014 at 16:33|
Wow that’s so sad that your friends think that way! I guess if I were you I would constantly tell them that God made them beautiful and whenever they say that they’re ugly I’d tell them to stop saying that because God made them gorgeous!! Hope this helps 🙂
|December 22, 2014 at 18:06|
@happyitsestie Thanks for the advice! I’ve tried that before, but it isn’t really effective at all. :/ It’s so sad, because they have like the lowest self esteem ever 🙁
|December 22, 2014 at 20:33|
It’s annoying because our culture has this nice little box that women are supposed to fit into in order to be beautiful. you must have a tiny nose, high cheek bones, skinny waist, big boobs….But who exactly made up this standard, and what makes him/her the expert and decision maker?
Actually, in some cultures, women actually use makeup to make their nose look larger, they intentionally try to gain weight (to become actually well, fat)
Beauty can’t be defined by one standard, nor is it the most important thing.
People are way to hard on themselves anyway. When I was 13 I thought I was the most ugly, repulsive creature ever. Looking back at pictures though, I was actually quite cute and normal-looking. I’m sure it’s the same deal with your friends.
May I ask how old they are? More than likely, they will overcome their self-esteem issues eventually. It’s kind of a combination of (1) knowing that you actually are pretty, and (2) Beauty isn’t really the most important thing.
|December 25, 2014 at 15:52|
God says they are beautiful and thats all that matters.
|January 20, 2015 at 05:10|
Thank you both for replying! Your insight is great! I really appreciate it 🙂
|January 20, 2015 at 07:57|
My heart really goes out to all young girls and women who feel like they aren’t “beautiful enough”. I’ve struggled with body image and trying to fit a standard. It’s like society gives the wrong message for what beautiful really is. Even when they say your beautiful they will tell you that you still need to improve something physically, and then it causes you to want to pressure yourself to fit a standard that does not define your heart. God says your beautiful and regardless of what others say about you, no one can change that. God does NOT make mistakes. Your perfect just the way you are. 🙂
|January 20, 2015 at 17:11|
Thank you so much, StarySky!! That was very helpful 🙂
|January 21, 2015 at 11:17|
Oh your poor friends! I hurt every time I hear of people who don’t believe they’re beautiful, I myself struggled with it for a long time. What your friends need to realize is that they may not fit into society’s guideline for attractive features and that is completely okay and normal! Very few people naturally fit these requirements, because there is no one definition of beauty. Everyone is different and everyone sees beauty differently. It’s hard to accepted that we won’t look like [insert person you think is beautiful] but we have to. We have to learn to love ourselves and realize that we are incredibly beautiful because God made us in His image. I’ll be praying for your friends <3
|January 26, 2015 at 10:13|
ahhh poor girls. I used to feel the same way and here’s what I would of liked people to tell me back then. if they are saying how there hair doesn’t look good or there nose is to big say “i don’t think so why do you think that?? your hair is beautiful color and your eyes are a wonderful blue/green/brown!” just give them complements about themselves and tell them through the day something about them you see as beautiful. if you just tell them that they r beautiful but not anything specific then they will think your lying. if you keep saying specific things that make them beautiful then when they start feeling better about them selves you can tell them how God thinks there beautiful to and they will listen. hope this helps!:)
|February 28, 2015 at 08:54|
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