24 hours ago, I broke up with with my boyfriend that I had been with for 6 months. I realized that he and I wanted very different things. He never really liked any of my goals, didn’t really have a way of making money in mind, doesn’t think practically about the future and wanted to live in a van down by the river. I want a home that I can set up my way, I want to be able stop working when I have kids so I can raise them (I really hate the idea of someone else raising my kids for me) and I want to have some stability in my life. I wanted to get married within the next year or 2, he demanded we wait till he was done with school and his last semester really set him back in school. We couldn’t agree about faith and going to church with the man I love is one of the most important things to me. My love language is quality time and he never had time for me. He was home 3 weekend in the whole 6 months we were dating because he volunteered to do extra stuff for the Boy Scouts that wasn’t necessary for him to do. I planned every date we went on. He just doesn’t have time for a girlfriend. Plus he is allergic to cats and I love cats. I love his family. They were very welcoming and fun to be around. They were very loud, my family is practically silent. He really fell in love with me and I loved him. I know breaking this off was the right thing but he didn’t make things easy on me. He told me things I had never heard from him before like that I was the most wonderful person he had met and that he had never been so sure about anything in his whole life. It really hurt him for us to break up and I hate that. I really hate knowing I hurt someone and I know its better to do it now than wait but it still sucks. I just hope he sees what I saw.
|January 4, 2016 at 11:31|
Hey:) I am so sorry for what has happened:( I have never been in a situation such as yours but I know it must really hard for you to break up with your boyfriend. Looking at what you wrote about, I know you have done the right thing. I understand that both of you love each other but I think if both of you got married, it would have caused a lot of tension because you both obviously have very differing opinions about how to live your lives. Also if you both can’t agree about faith… well that’s everything!!
Yes, you might have hurt him but it was for the best. He might not see it at the moment as something for his best interests, but he will eventually see what you see. Just give him space and time to heal. Keep praying to God to help heal his pain.
For you, I think you better keep busy and keep active with your life. Spend time with friends and keep up with your studies. Pursue passions and pursue God. Pray to God and ask him to heal your own heart. Spend time with the Lord:) After a while, things will get better. I believe that Jesus wants me to tell you a verse, which will help you through this:
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
I hope this helps:)
|January 4, 2016 at 19:58|
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