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Jealousy with my family and trouble with people

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ChildofGod_822

ChildofGod_822

I have a big family of 6, but for the longest time, it’s just been me and my mom going to church together every Sunday. I love that because I get to talk to her in the car. I can’t really talk to her at home because my dad is always around. Many times he has tried to get involved in the conversation but ended up yelling at me for something I wasn’t even talking about, so I wait till Sundays or usually post something on here. Anyway, my dad has recently started coming to church more often and it’s so weird to see him there. He’s always on my brother who’s an atheist and hates anything Christian to go too. I don’t like it when they’re there because I feel like they are always judging me. And my brother always tries to stand really close to me so I have no room to walk. At home we always make weird awkward eye contact and he stares at me. My parents and him are talking about him doing the media at church so he’ll be there even more. Can you please help? I feel awful I don’t want them there. I was born with a hearing loss and wear hearing aids. Both my dad and my brother have never liked me, they have told me they think my hearing aids are stupid and my brother makes really mean jokes about me at dinner sometimes. He says he’s “just kidding” but it just seems meaner because we’re not even friends and he won’t ever talk to me. Back to my dad, it’s like he’s suddenly trying to be a good role model and talking about God and telling me things I already know. The only role models have been my other brother, my mom, friends, and other people in the church. I guess I just feel like my dad is trying to do something just to “look good”. He’s also mean to me sometimes and always tells me I need to work on my social skills and that I have no friends and of course, yells at me. I don’t like them because they make me hate myself. My mom always says my brother is nicer to me than I am to him, but it might actually be the other way around. He won’t even accept my friend request on Facebook, even though he goes on a lot. He lies to my mom and says he doesn’t go on. Did I do something to make him not like me? And why is my mom always trying to make me feel really bad about it when I’ve done everything I could to make it better. With my other brother, it’s much easier and I can talk about God with him, laugh and have conversations. I did have some issues when I was little and sometimes didn’t know things when I should. I grew up a lot since then but I don’t get why he was so patient with me and still loved me so much when my other brother in my opinion, wanted nothing to do with me and pretty much never forgave me. I never even meant to hurt him. I just learned things when I did. While I was growing up, everyone else was so patient with me. Do you know why this was? And also, why do I have to have this learning disability? Just look what it did to me and my brother and it has made other people who were so sweet and loving towards me eventually stop being my friend. It might also make a guy never like me. Advice please? It is greatly needed and appreciated!

January 31, 2016 at 12:24
princesshunter

princesshunter

Hopefully your dad and brother will be influenced in church and be saved. In life we’re going to be mocked for our faith, some even killed. Regardless of how your family treats you, never stop praying for them and show them love. If your dad and brother truly see Christ in you, they might come to know Him. As for your learning disability, God can use it for your good. If everything were perfect, we’d never grow. Here are some verses that may help: John 16:33, Matthew 6:14-15, Luke 14:12-14

January 31, 2016 at 23:06
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magenta-roseberry

Hey,sounds like you need a friend, you can talk to me in the chat room if you would like to anytime just send a message there.
In the meantime don’t worry too much about the attitudes of your family members. Remember that we all have issues no matter what the nature, as princesshunter said,never stop praying for them and show them love, life is 10% about circumstances and 90% about how we respond to them.
Its hard when your dad is distant and showers you with negativity then puts on the facade of a role model when its convenient to him. As girls we need our fathers, we also subtly tend to seek validation from them, whether we choose to admit it or not. I know exactly what it is to have a dysfunctional family. Their comments may hurt However just remember that you were created in the image and likeness of God and no matter what , that should be reason enough to smile.
I read some of your other posts and recall you saying something about how could a guy ever like you ; the right guy will come along who will like you for who you are . You are perfect, some of the greatest people of all time had disabilities- Helen Keller was deaf and blind yet she managed to complete her education,Albert Einstein, Leonardo Da Vinci and Thomas Edison were all dyslexic in fact Einstein failed to talk until age four and could not read until age nine. Remember that in the Bible God used some of the most seemingly dysfunctional people-Moses was a stutterer,Simon Peter was short tempered and a bit violent, Gideon was a coward, Rahab was a prostitute, and so many others,just imagine what he can do with you! About the boy troubles, talk to God about it, he cares about all the little things you care about, in the meantime don’t lower your standards for anyone. Try as best as possible to be confident- great guys like confident ‘self assured girls- not proud or snobbish but a healthy confidence.
Here are some scriptures to remember whenever you are down -Take delight in the Lord and he will give you your hearts desires-Psalm 37:4. When doubts filled my mind, your comfort gave me renewed hope and cheer-Psalm 94:19. Your promise revives me; it comforts me in all my troubles-Psalm 119:50 Give all your worries and cares to God , for he cares about what happens to you-1 Peter 5:7. If you need wisdom-if you want to know what god wants you to do-ask him, and he will gladly tell you. He will not resent your asking. James 1:5
I hope I was of some help to you and remember if you need to talk , send me a message

March 10, 2016 at 12:05
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