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Masturbation….. Right or Wrong?

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BigSister

BigSister

Right or Wrong and your position in believing so.

June 12, 2015 at 23:08
carolinereinhart1

carolinereinhart1

I don’t believe so, because I feel like it’s self-glorification and also the Bible doesn’t support it. I’m the type of girl who is waiting for intimacy until I get married, and I don’t see the need to be intimate with myself. But others may disagree, and it’s ultimately between you and God.

June 13, 2015 at 10:24
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GabrielaB

I haven’t found anything specific in the Bible condemning masturbation. I don’t see why it is wrong if a person wants to do it. In fact there are lots of benefits to masturbation:

-Increased levels of dopamine and seratonin in your brain, which are chemicals that make you happier, less depressed, etc.
-It is a stress reliever
-You get to know your body better, and what you like/don’t like
-Boosts your self confidence
-Helps relieve menstrual cramps/muscle tension
-Improves sleep
-Orgasming is a natural high that is way better than drugs and alcohol
-It’s SAFE: no risk of STIs, you have complete control so consent isn’t an issue
-It isn’t pre-marital sex because it is with yourself, not another person.

One thing that is often debated is whether God has intended sex to be for pleasure or just procreation. The fact that the clitoris exists, to me, seems to show that it is made to be used, and I think doing things that cause you pleasure that aren’t bad for you in any way, is totally fine.
Ultimately, my opinion is that you can do whatever you want and what you feel comfortable with. If it’s something you want I don’t see it as against God, but good for yourself. It’s all up to you.

June 16, 2015 at 05:42
marysetrueblood

marysetrueblood

Exactly the same view as Gabriela. I’d say it’s mutually useful and up to you. I know some people who just don’t feel comfy with it, so they don’t like the idea of it, but it’s not a sinful or morally wrong act by any means.

June 24, 2015 at 20:49
Lovegodlovelife

Lovegodlovelife

Just wanted to say that I’m positive I’ve seen a thread about this that was at least 6 pages long somewhere on this site and if you want more opinions I’d advise you to search it up and read 🙂

June 28, 2015 at 09:10
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InkyCake

No no no.
Why?
Because you do it out of lust.
That is the only reason, because you can’t have sex, so therefore this is the next best option right. Wrong. Only do things that glorify God, and it is his temple. You probably keep yourself going by thinking dirty thoughts.
Yeah I went there. Lust is a sin, so any action you do out of lust is also sin.
Sorry.

July 3, 2015 at 07:14
mojorising211

mojorising211

Since my words get fumbled and jumbled easily, and this is a serious subject, I looked for someone with more wisdom than me that is also led by God so I got this excerpt from “Today’s Christian Woman”. I hope this helps!

“Because my job is to talk to women about sex, there are few questions that I haven’t heard and haven’t answered. However, there is one common question that I don’t like to answer. It involves the “M” word—masturbation.
One of the reasons I dread this question is because there is no clear answer. I could take the easy road and just say, “If in doubt, don’t do it.” The fact is that many Christian women masturbate and feel horribly guilty about it. I’ve met women who feel more shame about masturbation than they do about having an adulterous affair. Yet the Bible is silent on the issue of masturbation and says a whole lot about adultery.
Masturbation is a complicated issue that doesn’t lend to a clear black and white answer. I want to be realistic about the struggle without giving freedom that God perhaps hasn’t given.
Let’s start with the basics:
At a purely biological level, masturbation isn’t that much different than other things we do with our bodies—like picking our noses. Toddlers do both. They are wired to touch their bodies everywhere and repeat touching where they find pleasure. Little boys and girls quickly discover that their “private parts” feel really good to touch. As children grow, wise parents gently teach that touching some places of our bodies isn’t appropriate to do in public. And they teach their kids not to pick their noses in public either.
But why does picking your nose have an embarrassing but non-moral stigma, while masturbation has become laden with tremendous guilt and shame? While there is nothing inherently wrong with touching yourself to experience pleasure, masturbation becomes a moral issue because it involves sexuality. Sexuality has intrinsic moral implications. Does that mean that masturbation is always immoral? I don’t think so. Here are a few questions that can help you evaluate the issue given your personal circumstances.

1) What are you thinking about?
While masturbation itself isn’t immoral, the sexual fantasies that usually go with it may be. Most women only masturbate when they are thinking about or looking at something sexual. Sexual fantasies about someone you are not married to are, as Jesus stated, “adultery of the heart.”
“But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman [or man] with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28)2)

2) What is your motive?
The Bible makes it clear that God is very concerned about our motives. For example, giving money to your church might be a wonderful act of worship or an empty gesture, depending upon the attitude of your heart. The same can be true of masturbation.

Sexuality was created to draw us into relationships. The hormones that flow through a teenager’s body awaken the desire to seek intimacy. The goal of masturbation is to bring pleasure to yourself, typically outside of relationship. For this reason, some believe that masturbation is selfish and misusing the gift of sex. While that may be the case, I don’t think it is always so cut and dry.

Even those who are committed to purity in mind and body have sexual hormones, dreams, and thoughts that impact their body.
Many women learned (or were even taught) to masturbate at very young ages. This is particularly true of those who have been sexually violated and have been “sexualized” at a young age. While I wouldn’t recommend masturbation, I also don’t think it should add to the shame that women feel about their sexuality. Just like men have “wet dreams,” many women masturbate and orgasm in their sleep. Single women are sexual. Even those who are committed to purity in mind and body have sexual hormones, dreams, and thoughts that impact their body.

There are Christian leaders working with singles who believe that masturbation may be a way to stay sexually pure until marriage. While I would be very cautious to give that advice, I recognize that for some, masturbation is a way of channeling sexual urges away from the temptations to have sex. It’s possible for the motive of masturbation to be for purity and a form of exercising self-control.

The question of motive is also important for a married woman. There is a huge difference between a selfish wife who masturbates because she is angry with her husband and a wife who masturbates for the purpose of building intimacy with her husband. Consider, for example, a wife who is separated from her husband because of travel, deployment, or illness. She wants to focus on her husband and channel her sexual urges toward him.

Masturbation can also be beneficial in cases of sexual dysfunction. A very common form of sex therapy called “sensate focus” helps a woman pay attention to how she responds to sexual touch, first by touching herself and then by guiding her husband’s hand as he touches her. This can be an important step in healing, particularly for women who have experienced sexual trauma that triggers anxiety at sexual touch.

3) Is it mastering you? (No pun intended.)
The apostle Paul taught that “nothing should master” us. In other words, we shouldn’t be controlled or addicted to anything. This applies to food, shopping, Facebook, and also to masturbation. For many women, masturbation can become a way of escape from boredom, loneliness, depression, pain, and stress. We learn at a young age to soothe ourselves with something that feels good. Some ways of coping with stress and boredom are clearly unhealthy, like drinking alcohol or cutting. Other forms of coping are destructive because they abuse an inherently good thing. For example, food is a wonderful gift. But a binge on ice cream and Doritos because you are lonely is abusing that gift. The same is true of sexuality. The neurochemicals released during sex and orgasm reduce stress, help you sleep, and make you feel at peace. However, having sex outside of marriage or habitually masturbating is an abuse of the body’s natural response to sex.

If you are masturbating on a regular basis or use it to deal with negative emotions, I’d encourage you to find other means of coping.
If you are masturbating on a regular basis or use it to deal with negative emotions, I’d encourage you to find other means of coping. God gave us healthy ways to release the chemicals in your body that bring peace and contentment. Prayer, meditation, exercise, talking to a friend, or creating something artistic might take more work, but they are alternatives to falling into an addictive cycle.

4) Am I honoring God with my body?
“Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body” (1 Corinthians 6:19–20).

This verse can bring conviction regarding a lot of choices we make with our body, but it was written in the context of sexuality. If there is a “gold standard” question to ask, this is it. In some situations, the answer to whether you’re glorifying God in your body may be yes, and in other situations the answer is clearly no.

I have great respect for women (married and single) who want to honor God with their sexuality. I believe masturbation is an issue that each woman has to ask the Lord about. When God wanted to be clear about something, He inspired clear teaching in Scripture. The Bible is silent on masturbation. What God did state definitely is that he wants to give us his wisdom. “If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking” (James 1:5).

God is the High Priest who understands our questions and struggles. Even in this most intimate (and perhaps embarrassing) issue, don’t be afraid to pour out your heart to him and ask for his specific direction and wisdom.”

July 6, 2015 at 12:04
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