Recently, I’ve been noticing that my friends aren’t as religious as they used to be. When we were younger we used to always talk about how we weren’t going to do drugs or drink alcohol but now that’s literally all my friends do. I’m not going to lie, there was a period in time where my faith wasn’t very strong and I would participate in some things, but now that I’m living more like a Christian I try to refrain.
Anyway, most of my friends have given up on church because they feel like it’s “wack” or “full of hypocrites”. I can understand where they’re coming from but it’s hard for me because I still believe in going to church. I just kind of feel alone with my faith and I’m afraid that all of my friends are losing their’s.
I guess my question is what should I do exactly? The friends that I have have been my friends since Elementary school and it seems to weird to think about them not being in my life. Yet, when it comes to talking to them about Christian things I feel like I come off as “judgmental” to them. So what should I do?
|January 24, 2015 at 01:07|
They’re teens, so please know they’re going to be just exactly that. Teens do pretty stupid stuff, even turn away from God and backslide more than we should. Pretty soon, we become careless and shut God out entirely.
Let me tell you now that you are NOT being judgmental to tell them about what you love—Jesus! It sounds to me that your friends are pretty wrapped up in the things of this world. God tells us crystal clear to hang out with positive friends, people that are madly in love with him. That doesn’t mean that hope is lost for your friends, however! Influence them each day, act like Christ. Be the shining oddball, it’s way better than conforming to the trend of drinking and drugs and sex and all that crap.
So like I said, try to be a positive influence. I’m glad you’re worrying for them, because that means you care an awful lot. You’re afraid to let them slip away from both you and God, but there isn’t much you can do at the moment besides leave it to God and God alone. He knows how to lead them back, and you can help by staying true to yourself and not falling into the future temptations your friends could put you through.
Put your worry on God and pray to him. He’s standing by and waiting for that all day and all night, 24/7. One of the many reasons he’s there is to take every ounce of your worry and problems from you, and help you solve them. Just believe and stay diligent when it comes to praying about your friends, that’s your part. Ask him what do to and to guide you through this, and keep on asking and believing. It works wonders.
So all in all, stay true to yourself, and be that example God wants you to be. He often likes to talk to you through your conscious or that gut feeling you have when having to choose between wrong and right. If you don’t feel right about staying with your friends and their lifestyles, lay low for a while and pursue other things in your life. Distract yourself with the things that don’t worry you or keep you up at night. But if your conscious is telling you to stay with your friends and fight to get them out of this ditch they’ve gotten themselves into, then by all means, go for it! God will help you every step of the way… so just ask him. Be humble and be a light.
All you can do is influence them and pray, pray, pray. Invite them to powerful youth group sermons or events, any that you can find. Take them out one by one for a walk in the park or hiking or someplace quiet and peaceful, and talk to them. Buy them lunch, show them God’s love. You can even tell them what concerns you, and if they’re really your friends, they’ll listen to you and realize that maybe what they’re doing isn’t so smart after all.
I hope all goes well! 🙂
|January 24, 2015 at 15:09|
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