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polkadotfireant

polkadotfireant

Okay. So this is going to be a bit confusing and just plain messed up. But I need to get this weight off my shoulders, and I need advice.

First, let’s do a little bit of a prelude.
At the beginning of the current school year, I transferred schools. This school was really small and isolated, and there were only ten people in my grade. There was a carnival at this school before the school year started, so I went to that, and met my best friend for the first time. Let’s call her C. The other girls mainly ignored me, so I hung out with C.
Flash forward to the first week of school. I met another classmate who wasn’t at the carnival. Let’s call her F. Apparently, she and C were good friends, so I kind of worked my way into their inner circle without realizing it. I was having a great time at school.

And now, let’s travel to about month two of school. F started to get a little snarky, and worked her way up to just plain mean at times, and nice other times. She seemed really possessive of C as well. It was creepy.
In the past three months, F has gotten meaner and C has been distant. F even tried to ditch C at the mall once. After a week of being mad at her, C is now her best friend again. Recently C has been kind of mean to me, almost as if F’s temper has been rubbing off on her. She’ll act really frustrated even if I’m just asking a simple question, like when we’re going to gym, and her tone will be icy.

And just two days ago, the class paired up for a science experiment, and she immediately paired with F. And since we were working in groups of three, I asked to join them. They got really quiet, and F raised her eyebrows and smirked. She then told C that it was her decision. C said okay. They joined their desks together and I sat behind them, totally ignored while they talked about boy bands.

So just today, I texted C about this. She told me she liked working with F because I joked too much. Excuse me, but I get the work done, and I’m not talking about boy bands and Vines while I do it! And she also told me that she is bothered by how introverted and awkward I am. Apparently, it’s all my fault. She said I remind her of her “past self” who was really shy and afraid of people, and this irritates her to the point where she feels the urge to physically harm herself. Woah there, C.

So, yeah. This is the story of how I cause another to want to harm herself.

Yeah, life’s GREAT!

March 20, 2015 at 17:16
polkadotfireant

polkadotfireant

So this is what C said, and I quote:

“Sorry and sometimes u get on my nerves for no reason and means F have a lot in common and i have anger problems when I get mad or nervous I rip holes in my skin with my nails”

March 20, 2015 at 17:19
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kylie15

March 21, 2015 at 10:21
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kylie15

wow…that is crazy. it sounds like these girls are unstable and maybe you need to take a step back and make some new friends. if C was nice to you until F started being mean its possible that F said some things about you to C and maybe said she didn’t want to be friends with her if she was friends with you, and since C is good friends with F and she just met you she choose F…im sorry these girls are being mean but it sounds like there not very good friends and they kinda bring you down…I would pray and ask God what to do and then maybe find some new friends…

March 21, 2015 at 10:24
imorox

imorox

I’m so sorry. That’s awful. I know somewhat how you feel due to relationships I’ve had where my “friends” turn out to be not so great. I really would suggest stepping away from the friendship. I know it’s probably hard to do, but I know how it feels to be around people who ignore you. It’s so emotionally taxing that it really isn’t worth it. If you feel that it is worth it to try and save the relationship, I would have a serious talk with both of them. Being shy and introverted myself, I understand that may be hard, but if you really want the relationship, give it a shot. I really do think the best thing to do though, would be to step away.

March 21, 2015 at 18:11
polkadotfireant

polkadotfireant

Thanks, both of you. But unfortunately there isn’t a lot I can do to find new friends; everybody is “taken” if you know what I mean. But fortunately, I’ll be out of there in a few months; I’m changing schools. Which is awesome, because the school I’m going to is bigger and there will be a larger pool of potential friends.

Something my sister said about the situation really rang true to me: F is being mean to me and nice to C to get me out of the picture. I reckon that’s what’s happening; I said earlier that F is really possessive of C.
But I guess for now I’ll just run with it. I’m a really non-confrontational person, and gossip travels fast in our school, so I don’t want to say something that I’ll regret later.

March 21, 2015 at 18:39
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Annyola

sorry to be outta topic…..but i need some advice…..would you be ok if your not christian friend is using your fone to chat with a guy that is into her because she doesnt have a phone???????

March 22, 2015 at 09:17
Thubabe

Thubabe

@Annyola…..If she uses my phone too much. Then of course I wouldn’t be okay.

March 23, 2015 at 05:34
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