Last fall my mom miscarried my brother. She was a couple of months pregnant but had to go into labor and give birth as if he was still living. It was an awful experience for the whole family, but it affected my mom the most. She is still mourning him. Today she told me that she still feels this constant sadness that won’t go away and she can’t stop thinking about him. Sometimes I even see her crying when she thinks we’re not looking. Everyone around us seems to be either pregnant or having a new baby, and my mom cries to herself during Mass every time we sit near a family with a baby. How can I help her?
|March 1, 2015 at 19:04|
I totally understand. I am an only child, and my mom had 2 miscarriages after me, but she always wanted to have more children. It was really tough, especially the second one for me. I think the only thing you really can do is just be there for her. I don’t know if you have any other siblings, but what has really helped us is my relationship with my mom. Since I’m an only child, I’m really close to her, so it kind of helps I think because even though she wanted more children, she knows that we wouldn’t be as close if she did. Sometimes just a hug when she looks like she’s upset can make all the difference. Most of all, pray for her, and for your whole family. A miscarriage is a really hard thing to go through, and I don’t think a lot of people realize that. God will get you through, believe me. But don’t think it’s all up to you to help your mom feel better, either. Of course do what you can, but there’s only so much you can do. There’s always grieving after the loss of a family member, just remind her to trust that God will get you guys through it.
|March 3, 2015 at 18:14|
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