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beck25

beck25

My mom told me I should marry an older guy so our maturity levels are almost the same. What if I like someone my age, and can’t help it?
I like this guy, he’s a believer, goes to church , and I enjoy being around him. The is nice to me and treats me like I’m the most amazing person that ever walked the planet. We are NOT dating, but I think he likes me like that. The problem is: he is a few months older than me and my mom wants me to have a guy that’s a few years older.
I know what she is telling me and why. She doesn’t want me to marry a guy that is immature. She doesn’t want me to make the same mistake. I understand that completely, but what if I want to make my own mistakes in life? I know that marriage or dating isn’t to be taken lightly. I would just like to like a guy on my own time, standards, and rules. My standards are very high and hard, but obviously this guy meets them. to He obviously has to at least be my age. I won’t date anyone who is younger than me.
I just want to know what to do.
I met this guy while at my first job. I applied there because a cute guy, not him, worked there. Then that guy quit and he had a girl friend, so he was out. Duh. Then this guy came along. If I hadn’t applied to a place I didn’t really want to work at just for a guy that ended up leaving, I wouldn’t have met this other guy. Part of me sees how this could’ve been set up by God, but the other half wonders if it’s just coincidence. I need an answer. Please?

February 9, 2015 at 20:11
InsanityPrincess

InsanityPrincess

Its not up to her. It’s up to you. If your standards are met, go for it! Also, why no younger guys? I understand that some may be immature and all… but many are pretty nice. I’ve pretty much only liked younger guys, because they don’t try too hard to be mature for girls, they’re just themselves. But anyways… Start chilling with him! Hang out with mutual friends, light-heart text, just be friends. Then at the right time… go for it!
Good luck! -IP

February 9, 2015 at 20:46
beck25

beck25

Thanks for your advice.
Just to let you in on something. I have been praying through a list of things that he has to do and so far, everyone of them has been fullfilled. I prayed that he was a baptist. He is.
I prayed that he would come to my church. He did.
I prayed that his bible was a King James, it was New King James. He is as loose as I want the bible version to be.
I prayed that if he did like me it would be in his own time. Not just because everyone at work wanted him to date me. He does.
I prayed that if this is serious and he does like me and if it’s God’s will, he will ask my dad to date me. He is going to.
If everything is falling into what I’ve been praying it to do, why am I so scared?

February 10, 2015 at 21:32
InsanityPrincess

InsanityPrincess

Because, even though it seems right, you’ve still got doubt in the back of your mind, nagging at you and making it scary. It’s tough when you aren’t sure about relationships… I’d look in the Bible and pray about it if I were you 🙂
-IP

February 12, 2015 at 17:24
RynPolinde

RynPolinde

If I understand your mom right, she’s concerned about maturity. If this guy is mature, then she shouldn’t have an issue with him being the same age as you, in fact that almost makes him better because he’s more mature at a younger age.

February 18, 2015 at 04:02
lovely56798

lovely56798

Your mom is not the one who is going to spend her life with this man,you are!!!!!If you love this guy and he loves you and its god’s will,than….go for it

March 10, 2015 at 16:32
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