Hello friends. So, as we all know, yesterday was *sigh* Val–er– GALentine’s Day. At the end of the day, I checked my Facebook feed only to make my heart sink and keep being reminded I am still single after about 10 crushes since 6th grade (I’m 18 and a Freshmen in college).
So, my old best friend has always been more boy crazy than me (I did not know that was possible! Haha). Anyway, she has had a ton of boyfriends and lost track of the guys she has liked. Some of them even liked her in return and no boy has ever given me attention, like pursued me that is not a creep.
So anyway, about a year and a half ago, my friend had a baby (it was outside of wedlock though). Then she got ENGAGED! Now she is married and has a boy and a girl. I would seriously kill to have her life. Here I am, a struggling college student, single as ever, taking TWO antidepressants every morning after a near suicide attempt after the guy I love stopped me. And that same guy who stopped me (I have been in love with him for over a year, and now he is moving to Idaho). Also, I have a guy friend (he is currently in SoCal in college, but we keep in touch) who cant seem to see us as more than brother and sister (but maybe we need to have a long talk, so that is a minor detail). Anyway, I just feel restless, anxious and lonely, and afraid, and here is my old best friend living the dream. I really need advice. Thank you
|February 15, 2016 at 09:44|
Just as a disclaimer, I’m only sixteen, so I’m probably not the best person to be giving you advice, but I’m going to try anyway. Being single sucks, I know. And liking someone that doesn’t like you back hurts almost even more. But think about it this way, you get to experience life by yourself first. You don’t have to think about working your schedule around a guy. You can travel the world, chase your dreams (and you have some pretty awesome ones!), and pretty much everything else! Love and relationships will come eventually, I promise. God causes everything to work out in perfect timing (I know, you’ve head it before, but it’s true). You’re going to be okay, really. That feeling of being restless could just mean that you need a change of scenery. Can you go somewhere? Even for just a weekend? You’d be amazed at how much that can change how you feel!
|February 15, 2016 at 15:18|
I’m the same age as you, so all I have to say is: don’t worry about it so much. You’re so young! Trust me, the people at age eighteen who have settled down like your old friend has are in the minority. Nearly all of the rest of us have no idea what we’re doing, myself included. I’ve had a hard first year in college as well, and I know how it feels to be so lonely. I’ve been having a bit of a better time these past few weeks ago because I got more involved, so that’s my advice to you. I joined the theater club on campus, so find a club or another organization that you’re passionate about. Colleges have clubs for just about everything. I know that it’s awful feeling like old friends are drifting apart. But trust me, at eighteen, there’s so much left to happen. God has so many people He’s waiting to place in your life. I know that it’s hard to be patient, but things always work out.
|February 18, 2016 at 15:29|
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