Last night I was looking forward to a night of cuddling with my boyfriend. We’ve done this before with nobody having any issues. But last night things turned interesting fairly quickly. So, I made him sleep on the floor. (I volunteered, actually. So that’s not entirely true. He even offered to leave. And maybe I should have encouraged him to, but hearing him sleep is nice, and his presence puts me in a good mood.)
|December 6, 2014 at 15:59|
It honestly sounds like he doesn’t have a whole lot of respect for you and your wishes. If you talk to him and lay down some ground rules, such as no sex before marriage and maybe some other boundaries, and he continues to argue with you or doesn’t fully agree, then it’s probably not a healthy relationship to be in.
I’ve been in the situation before where I told a guy no and he continued to press the issue, and I had to make the decision to drop him. If you compromise even slightly on your beliefs or your morals in the physical sense (the emotional sense as well), that opens doors to more and more compromises, until there is so much of a snowball effect that you’ll wake up one day and want it all back. But you won’t be able to take it back. You may not even realize that it’s happening until it’s too late.
I would sit him down, explain to him exactly why you feel the way you do, and set some boundaries. If he’s still arguing or not fully supporting you with that, then I would highly consider breaking up with him. It sounds like you really like this guy, but I would be careful. And as always, pray about it.
I hope this helps! Good luck! <3
|December 7, 2014 at 12:14|
We enjoy some fun debates, so I feel like he just sees this as another test of his wits and thinking skills.
|December 7, 2014 at 15:08|
I think whatever God convicts your hear to do would serve you well. But I also think that you need to let him know that if he really cares for you he will respect your boundaries, but still let him know you care about him. You can also say that you as an individual don’t feel ready until marriage, and if he really loves you at all he will respect your feelings and your heart. A man should always value your heart first.. Anyway that’s my take on it. But I think the first sentence within this paragraph is the most important to pay attention to..
|December 20, 2014 at 07:25|
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