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AdventureGirl

AdventureGirl

I don’t really have any guy friends, and I think I know why. Whenever I hang out with a guy and we seem to start getting to be friends I automatically think they like me romantically. I know— it’s so vain!

Anyway, I feel weird even posting this, but how do I stop thinking this? I really like having guy friends and I don’t want to assume such silly things all the time.

September 7, 2015 at 16:51
Mandi Pi

Mandi Pi

Hey there lovely lady. 😀
I do perfectly understand your feeling (of silly thoughts getting in the way of having guy friends). So no weirdness. 🙂 My problem is actually usually the opposite, me liking them, although sometimes I assume they like me, so I can relate to that as well. To answer your question of how to stop thinking like that? You don’t. You just keep thinking it, and then you deal with it and stay friends, and then you get over it and are great friends. XD If there’s a better solution, I haven’t found it. It’s just a mindset you have to teach yourself: ~This person is my friend. I don’t even like him that way. He might think of me that way and he might not, but either way, he is my friend right now. This is chill. Be chill.~ And eventually, it gets easier to think that way. My two best friends are guys, and honestly, I liked one of them the first couple weeks I knew him, I sort-of-liked the other one at certain points, and I often wondered if the latter liked me at certain points. But now I’ve completely gotten over all those thoughts and I talk to/hang out with them like they’re just people who are my friends, and it’s great.

Something that might help more is, if they are Christian, thinking of them as brothers in Christ. Because then, if you have thoughts about liking them/them liking you, then any hesitance you feel is not just your brain saying “hey, this is just a friend”, it’s conviction telling you “hey, this is your brother in Christ”–and that stronger conviction may make it easier to get into the right mindset.

So in conclusion, not totally sure what to tell you, just do your best (maybe try the brother-in-Christ-mindset approach), and don’t beat yourself up about it; you’re not the worst, it’s just an odd, silly girl thing that many of us experience and occasionally battle. 😉 If you ever need to talk more, or even vent, find me here or email me (amfin@earthlink.net). 🙂

September 8, 2015 at 19:18
AdventureGirl

AdventureGirl

Girlie I am soooo thankful for you! You’re advice is always spot on! Thank you! 🙂

September 9, 2015 at 21:04
Mandi Pi

Mandi Pi

Was that really spot on?? XD Haha no problem! 😀

September 10, 2015 at 12:01
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