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livelovetheatre

livelovetheatre

Guy Problems.. So short story, I really need to get over a guy and need help with.
Long Story: I’ve been doing theatre since my freshmen year (I’m now a senior). In my sophomore year during the Senior directed one act play someone dropped out so the director had to pull in her brother. The fist time I saw him (we’ll call him Tom) I thought he was kind of cute but not much else of it. I noticed he was really quite so I spent the show trying to talk to him and make sure he was feeling welcome, I developed a crush on him. Once the show ended we didn’t talk until I saw him on crutches one day in the hall and messaged him to see how he was doing (he had had knee problems before this too). We didn’t really have much of a conversation.
In my junior year I decided to invite him to the event for the auditions of the senior one act (it’s in the spring). I didn’t actually make it to auditions but did mine at a different time. He ended up doing the show and even though I tried to suppress my feeling for them they came back, it didn’t help that we were dating in two of the scenes. Anyway, this sophomore I’m friends with, told me she liked him. I wasn’t sure how much she liked him, at first I thought it was just as a friend but now since she “had placed her claim” I couldn’t mention that I liked him, I didn’t even know if I could trust her with it now. She’s adorable and all throughout the show she was flirting with him, like very intensely, she also was dating him in a scene. Throughout the show I got closer to him but I knew I couldn’t hold my own because I can’t flirt for the life of me. During tech week we would joke backstage and he would come sit next to me. After the shows we awkwardly congratulated each other without hugging (which is weird for theatre people). At the cast party I got him to sign my yearbook. He said that he was happy that we had gotten to be good friends (at least to him we were) and that he was looking forward to senior year. The other girl had him sign hers too but it seemed like he didn’t want to and I told him he didn’t have to sign mine if he didn’t want to. She also asked him out and they went on a double date.
I really wanted to hang out with him more but was too afraid to ask to do so one on one. So I worked really hard to set this canoe trip up but she (we’re call her Ruth) managed to get an invite from him. They also ended up in a double together because I was too afraid to assert myself as I didn’t want to clue Ruth in at all. Ruth and I also set up a cast pool party and at the end I hugged him goodbye (I think this might have been the only time we hugged.
He then next talked to me from Tanzania. He was on a trip there and in an internet cafe he had paid for some internet time and used some of it to talk to me! I was really impressed. I decided that I needed to get up the courage and ask him to do something (with the help of my whole family haha). I messaged him once he got back and asked him to this movie in the park thing. We had everything planned and he seemed really excited he asked for me number and we messaged and texted for a while (Ruth and him texted a lot). Well, on the day, Ruth ended up asking both of us to attend the same thing I kinda freaked out and asked him what he wanted to do and he said he didn’t care. I said we could do this as a group but I wanted to hang out alone sometime. He said sure. So we ended up meeting up with a group of out junior friends and Ruth felt kinda awkward and had to leave early anyway. Tom and I chatted and laughed all night. When it came to the end it was me, my supportive friend, and him. My friend was gonna leave us alone for a minute but I got scared and said shouldn’t you go home (I was afraid and I cared that he got sleep cuz he had an early practice the next day). We didn’t hug or anything and the next day I thanked him for hanging out and said I had fun he said he did too. I tried to text him again that summer but he didn’t reply after the initial hey, hey (I later found out his phone doesn’t always work).
Now I still see him sometimes and he’s the lead in this play. He’s also in the same friend group as me now. I feel like I should talk to him more but I’m scared. Umm if you need/want any more info ask. Thank you so much, I feel so uncomfortable but can’t get him out of my heart.

January 23, 2015 at 17:42
SkyleeBluetiful

SkyleeBluetiful

Honestly hon, just try working your way in a little more and try tp get closer to him. And if you really like this guy, then pray about it.. And something will happen if it is in God’s will. Has anything further happened? ๐Ÿ™‚ Just let me know!!

January 23, 2015 at 22:32
livelovetheatre

livelovetheatre

Thanks Skylee! So you think I might still have a chance? I texted him congrats on his lead and then saw him at this party but we didn’t talk. I also see him at theatre meetings once a week.

January 25, 2015 at 07:01
SkyleeBluetiful

SkyleeBluetiful

Yes, you still have a chance. But it’s a matter of how much you would want to be with him. Just don’t compromise on what you believe in during the process. I like this guy in my class, and we didn’t talk much at first; then I started a conversation and we hit it off. For a few weeks we didn’t talk at all, then I initiated a converstaion and now we talk all the time. Just don’t be afraid to physically talk to him, (I’m not one for texting though lol) and at theatre meetings work your way closer to where he is, or talk to one of his friends. ๐Ÿ™‚ Anything else??

January 25, 2015 at 10:46
livelovetheatre

livelovetheatre

Yeah, texting terrifies me but so does talking in person and I don’t see him much any more. I don’t know I really like him but I just feel like I left too long of a gap between when we last talked and now. I’m also friends with one of his best friends and told him I was trying to get over him and that was about two months ago so I don’t want to mention anything now. At this point, I just want to be friends again.

January 27, 2015 at 19:48
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