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ChildofGod_822

ChildofGod_822

I posted about the guy Connor I see a lot before. I had a little different schedule for school and church before, but I’m starting to see him a whole lot more now. He stares at me a lot at church. One time he was sitting in front of me and my family, and he would sometimes brush his hair to the other side of his face, then look back at me through the corner of his eye. He would also look wherever I was looking. He looked like he was crying one day because he was rubbing his nose a lot. He also did that at school today when I forgot to smile back, so did I make him feel bad? But it wasn’t because I didn’t like him. I was focusing on something else. I also get the sense he’s sensitive like me. Would he stop being nice to me and not want to be my friend now? And one day a while ago while he was standing in a group of people, he smiling very big at me like we were good friends. He did that a couple times. Sometimes him and his mom even turn around to look at me. I feel like his parents know me somehow. Hopefully he would say good things about me to them. But I feel really bad that I’m always so scared to talk to him, even when he’s not with his family friends or just with his dad or friends at school. I only said “Hi” to him once. The only time we could talk is when we’re walking to our next classes after study hall, or I guess I could try at church. Yesterday him and his family were standing by the library. I went to the beginning of that hallway to see if it was open. I knew he was looking at me but I was sacred to look up. I just turned around when I saw the door was closed.
Before his family left, he came into the lobby-I was there too at the same time-and we just stared at each other.

I feel like we’re friends by how often I see him. Is that weird? I’m not even sure we really are or if he wants to be or get to know me. He won’t accept my Facebook request, respond to my 2 messges if he goes on, or follow me back on Instagram. I think he might go one since our number of mutual friends keeps getting higher. Is he really not seeing the messages or ignoring me? Months ago, I said “Good luck on finals!” Then yesterday I said “It was nice to see you at church” I just thought I was being sweet and nice. I also appreciate how he’s not making it so I can’t send him another friend request or blocking me.I sent the Instagram request a couple times since I really didn’t know if he went on. He probably thought I had a disability-that was a while ago. He still does smile like we’re friends. It’s not a fake polite smile. Can someone just explain why I see something so special in him? Thank you! I might be a little young to start thinking about this (19) but when I think of a Christian husband one day I picture him and his parents seem like the perfect second family. I’m so sorry if this is weird! Yesterday at church, his family was in front of me, and he checked to make sure I was looking forward, then he pretended to like scratch his shirt, but then he also lifted it up a little. What should I do? I respect he’s with someone, but I kind of wish he wasn’t. I think we would have been perfect. His girlfriend is in Broadway and while everything comes easy to her, I have had to work so hard to learn social skills and make friends. I just feel like I deserve something in return, that’s all. I don’t mean to across as sounding selfish. I also don’t just like Connor for his looks; I love his personality and his safe and refreshing presence. As I said before, I see something special in him too as a person. Thank you so much for all your help!

April 11, 2016 at 16:40
happyitsestie

happyitsestie

Hey girl! I’m sorry if this sounds harsh but if he’s with someone he’s off limits.. I know it can be hard to stop fantasizing but it’s honestly the best thing you can do. A verse that helped me a lot when I was creating too many scenarios in my head with older guys was Song of Solomon 2:7. It’s really important to guard your heart, I’m about the same age as you and I really wished I would have guarded my heart more.. Anyways, I’m not saying to not be his friend or anything, you should totally talk to him more about church or his interestsor something, he seems to want to be your friend. But from what I’m seeing maybe his girlfriend doesn’t want him chatting to girls online.. just a thought. There will be better guys who will like you for you. And i’m being so serious right now. Whenever I got told that I used to think that that was so cliche, but now I actually believe it because I’ve seen it happen, and it will happen to you girl so don’t lose hope!
Also remember that at the end of the day it is just a guy, Jesus always has and always will have your back and love you more than anyone!

April 19, 2016 at 20:32
ChildofGod_822

ChildofGod_822

Hey happyitsestie! Thank you so much! I’m not sure I want to talk to him anymore though. I don’t know how he would want to be my friend if he can’t even accept me. And in my opinion, his girlfriend doesn’t sound very nice if she won’t let him talk to other girls. I had some good guy friends before and I was like a little sister to them. I loved that!

April 27, 2016 at 14:13
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