So for those of you who don’t know me I’m Brianna Tess, or Bri for short. I’m new on here and this will be my first post. Warning it’s going to be long!
So I’ve been volunteering this summer at our local hospital. About three weeks ago I got reassigned a new job at the discharge center. So that morning at 8:00 I walked to the center and go in. I saw another volunteer which was great! I saw at that he was a Trans guy. “No problem!” I thought. I went over and introduced myself. He told me his name was Drew and he was 14. I then sat down on the couch and looked at my phone, not to be rude or anything to him but he was doing the same thing. He then finished whatever he was doing and come and sat by me. And I mean close! I’m cool with guys, but I thought it was a little weird he sat close enough to me that his knee touched mine. Anyway he started the conversation by asking me, “Do you think I’m a boy or a girl.” A little flustered and not sure which I said, “I don’t know, girl?” He shook his head and I sat there embarrassed. He said, “It’s alright! I’m actually Transgender. People mess it up all the time. Do you have a boyfriend?” I looked at him and thought “What the heck?! Why is he asking me this?!” (The fact is I’ve never had a boyfriend.) I answered, “Um no I don’t, Do you have a girlfriend?” “Yes! Her names Zoe and she’s the most pretty girl!” He then lowered his voice, “Do you work full days?” I shook my head no and he continued, “Well if you want you can come with me and Zoe to “explore” the hospital!” I rapidly think on what he means by “explore”. “I don’t think that we should explore the hospital. It’s probably against the rules and I don’t want to get in trouble.” I then looked over at the two nurses to see if they had heard anything, but they are deeply involved in their gossip. I looked back at Drew and he was on his phone typing something into notes. He then handed me his phone and I read, “The truth is Zoe and I don’t really explore. We go down an abandoned hallway and make-out. Well thats what we have been doing all summer except today we are trying something “new”. Well new to her not me;)” I handed him back his phone and said, “I don’t this that thats appropriate. And why are you telling ME this?” “Because I would like you to come and join us!” “No. I can’t. I don’t know what you mean by something “new” but I don’t want to have anything to do with it.” He cuts me off and says, “Well if you don’t want to thats fine. And when I say new, I think you know what I mean. But can I ask why you won’t come?” I then gave him a lengthy explanation on how I am a Christian and I don’t want to do anything now that I’ll regret later. He looked at me like I was nuts and then told me he was an Atheist. We then got sent to get a patient from their room and take them to their car. I’ll admit it, I was pretty scared to go by myself in an elevator with this boy who clearly didn’t respect my choice. It was fine though other than an awkward conversation about kissing. He had asked me if I had had my first kiss and I told him no, which is the truth. (I’m 14! Do you think its weird I have never kissed a guy?! I don’t.) He told me that he could see then why I didn’t want to make out and try the “new” thing with him and Zoe if I had never kissed a guy before. He told me that once a guy has his first kiss he craves it more and more and if he doesn’t get it he be unhappy. I was a little freaked out but then we got to the patients room he shut up. We didn’t have much more talk like this but he did for the last hour of work he bashed Christianity. I defended my belief until time to go and when he left he asked me if I was sure I didn’t want to go with him and Zoe. I firmly told him no and he left. I haven’t really told anyone about this and don’t really want to tell my parents. What do you guys think? Do you have advice to prevent this happening in the future? Please let me know!!! Thanks, Brianna
|July 30, 2015 at 17:01|
Ummm… If if this is a guy who clearly disregards your own boundaries then DON’T go into a hallway with him and “Zoe”. Your beliefs should not change so easily. You need to report him to management ASAP! His actions were clearly inappropriate and unprofessional. Honestly his actions sound like those of a cereal killer. Ted Bundy once said that his desire to kill sparked from pornography, and craving more and more. Steer clear!
You are only 14 and not having your first kiss is a GOOD thing!
|July 30, 2015 at 18:23|
I agree with Nate, you should report him.
Sidenote: Thanks for not misgendering him 🙂
|July 30, 2015 at 19:05|
That’s really bad. If he doesn’t respect you, then you should not be around him. Report and steer clear. Whatever you do don’t go ‘ explore ‘ with him. I don’t know if he means what he says but I don’t want anyone getting hurt by someone else. This is a recipe for disaster.
|July 30, 2015 at 22:38|
That’s harassment. And you should report it to HR. And if he makes more advances inform him that you will be talking to your manager. maybe it will get him to shut up. Asking people to hook up with you and bashing any kind of religion is unprofessional and doesn’t belong in a work place.
|August 6, 2015 at 05:50|
Hey guys, its me BriannaTess, my account blocked me idk why! The questiong I had was that I didnt report him. I really should have I know, but I was scared!
|November 5, 2015 at 22:13|
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