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Musician4Life

Musician4Life

Okay, I’m having major relationship struggles. First off, I’m currently online dating my best friend (she and I also dated for about a month last summer and recently decided to try again), but I’ve been in love with my friend for a year and a half now. I know he doesn’t like me like that (he told me so when I finally told him I love him), and we aren’t even as close of friends anymore. I know it will never happen, but I still love him so much and I don’t know what to do. I’m afraid of this hurting me and my girlfriend’s relationship since I’m so in love with him; I’m afraid I won’t be able to love her as much as she deserves. And to add to this, I also have a huge, ever-growing crush on my older coworker. She and I had an “almost fling” I guess you could say at the beginning of the year – until I found out she had been cheating on her long term partner with me. So basically I’m sitting here with a girlfriend I care so much for, an unrequited love for one of my best friends, and horribly strong feelings for an older coworker, and I have no idea what I should do. Breaking up with my girlfriend isn’t even an option, but how do you stop loving someone? Can you? I’m so confused, I’m not even sure how I can care so much for three people at one time anyway. Does that make me a bad person?

March 22, 2015 at 17:24
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kylie15

wow wow wow slow down…..it seems your feeling so much right now:) I don’t really think u can be in love with more than one person romantically if its real love. I would pray and ask God witch one u should choose and maybe talk to your guy friend to see if you still like each other.:) hope this helped

March 24, 2015 at 10:15
chloe523

chloe523

Why can’t you break up with her? Is there really anything stopping you? If I were you I would just get a clean slate and stay away from relationships for a while. But that’s just me. It might give you some room to think and figure things out without getting hurt or doing something you might regret. Other than that advice all I can say is that:
1. Your coworker is off-limits because she’s in a relationship. Regardless of the age difference or whatever else, you should respect that she is unavailable.
2. If your guy friend doesn’t like you like that, there’s really nothing you can do but move on and put your focus on something else. With time, you’ll feel better. Just trust that the right person for you is out there, even if it’s not him. I’m sorry I know this is difficult 🙁
3. How would you feel if you were in your girlfriend’s position? You probably mean everything to her but you don’t feel the same way. She doesn’t deserve that. I’m not saying that it’s your fault that you feel this way about other people, but think about it. I would much rather have someone break up with me and tell me the truth about how they feel, instead of have them pretend like everything is fine and keep leading me on to believe that relationship is going somewhere.
4. This doesn’t make you a bad person 🙂 you are just going through a confusing situation and need time and space alone to think about what’s really important to you right now. Good luck 🙂

March 25, 2015 at 16:36
AYoung77

AYoung77

I think you need to step back from all of this and really give it to God. You might need to tell your girlfriend that your feeling really confused and you need to take some time and spend it with God. I’m sure she’ll understand. Just submit to God and pray that He will give you guidance through this.

March 26, 2015 at 19:45
Musician4Life

Musician4Life

Thank you guys. I am trying to step back a bit and clear my head. Me and my girlfriend talked and though we are still together, we are both going to try to get back with God a bit and help each other through some things. Hopefully everything will work out.

April 1, 2015 at 09:22
Broken Vessel

Broken Vessel

I hope everything works out 🙂 It’s good that you talked it out with her!

April 1, 2015 at 15:10
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