So here’s the deal. I met him one year ago during my church’s VBS. I didn’t really think much of him. I never really noticed his cuteness which is usually the first thing I notice in a guy, yeah i know it’s superficial. Since we don’t go to the same school, I would only see him at youth group. We became pretty good friends. Little by little I stated to think about how cute he was. In nov I was gonna have my quince. I asked him to be in my court of honor which basically means they all do a coreographed dance with me. During this we became really close. On the day, everyone was telling me how cute we look together. He’s 6’3″ and I’m 5’1″. His sister even went the extra mile and told me that we should hurry up because she wants me to be her sister in law. Anyways it never went anywhere. At the time I didn’t really like him in that way. After everyone was telling me how cute we are I started looking at him. Like really looking. I started to love little things he does. I love how clumsy he is. How he’s always laughing at himself and stuff like that. His looks aren’t my top thing anymore. We have continued to grow closer. Recently one of his best friends has a crush on me. I go to him and ask him for advice all the time. The last time I asked him what to do he told me to literally tell him to stop talking to me. He flat out told me. I was shocked, like what if he likes me back. Anyways, we both started our senior and it hit me. Next year were both most likely going to college. We might never see each other again. So I’m wondering if I should tell him how I feel about him. I’m terrified. I don’t want to risk our friendship for something that might not work out. He’s literally perfection. Many guys have asked me out but he is the only guy out of all my guy friends (which are a lot because 95% of my friends are guys) that I actually would consider dating so I am scared like really scared. Should I risk our friendship or risk never seeing him again or maybe even wait for him to do something.
|August 30, 2016 at 18:50|
Wait, so you think that if you remain friends you won’t see each other again? I would say that, if you’re good friends, that you would (and should) keep in touch. …Or am I misunderstanding something?
So to get to the point, I think you should say something. Even if it’s just something like “hey, after we graduate we’ll still keep in touch, right?” That’ll let him know that you don’t want to lose him (at least as a friend), and might get him thinking more about how he feels about you. I don’t think there’s anything wrong about telling him what you have told us here and have a discussion about how you feel about one another.
|August 30, 2016 at 19:42|
Well I just don’t know what we’re going to do after high school, I might go to Kentucky (we live in California) or even if I don’t do that I just don’t know what will happen, if we will be able to remain friends. And to complicate things, I just found out one of my best girl friends has a crush on him and they have been talking since July. But I have heard that’s he’s been talking to other girls all during summer not just my best girl friend so idk what to do even more 😁
|August 31, 2016 at 22:06|
Well, I’d say not to set your heart on it too much. I had a crazy-intense crush on a friend of mine (who happens to live thousands of miles away, to make matters more complicated 😀 ) for around a year. Then he got a girlfriend, and ever since then I’ve been able to step away enough to realize that I really wouldn’t want that…at least not at this point in my life. We’re still really good friends–even closer than before–and I’m super glad that I was able to convince my heart of being logical for once 😉
But hopefully you’ll still be able to keep in touch, if you think it’s a friendship that you’d like to keep. There’s something special about friendships that endure despite distance 🙂 Anyhow…good luck! 😀
|September 1, 2016 at 09:12|
Yeah it’s a little late for that lol I’ve liked him for too long. But I can see myself pulling back but I don’t really want too. Like I almost feel like by my best girl friend telling me she like him that it’s Gods way of saying “back off, it’s not time or he’s not the one”
I definitely want to remain friends. He is the sweetest guy ever and a really good friend. I think I’ll take your advice and tell him what he thinks of our friendship after graduation and if we can remain friends 😊 Thanks for the advice!
|September 1, 2016 at 10:10|
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