I am so very happy at college! I’m meeting new people who are so friendly, and my classes are small enough that I am able to have some one-on-one help from my professors. But when I find out that the people I meet aren’t exactly “life for Christ” people, I’m at a loss as to what I should do. My mom is fearful that if I hang out with the wrong people, I may fall into the life that I have faith that God has freed me from. But my dad seems to believe in my relationship with God and that I’ll be able to hold my own. I don’t want to turn away from God, and I’d really love it if He was taking this chance to use me to lead others to Him. But I don’t want to take away from my relationship with God by surrounding myself with “dead weight”. Aside from these people’s secular lives, they truly are wonderful and respectful. They’re the sort of people that I want to be like, in their leadership and work ethic.
So how do I know if God is setting these people in my life for me to be a good Christian example for, or if Satan’s just setting them in front of me to try to drag me down?
|September 14, 2015 at 17:36|
I don’t have any answers either, but I’m eager to see what others think about this situation too as I struggle with this currently in high school.
|September 14, 2015 at 20:49|
Do your “secular” friends respect your beliefs and convictions (even though they might not understand them), or do they pressure you into doing things you don’t think are right? People who don’t share your beliefs can be good friends & good influences on your life. Those friendships just become a problem if your friends constantly try to change you into someone you don’t want to be by making fun of your beliefs, pressuring you into doing immoral things, etc.
On a side note, I would caution you against seeing your non-Christian friends as missionary projects. Be friends with them because you like them & not because you want to change them. It’s perfectly appropriate to mention what you believe if they ask or if it relates to what’s happening; just offer the same respect for their beliefs that you expect them to give your beliefs.
|September 15, 2015 at 17:55|
^What she said 😉
|September 20, 2015 at 11:01|
There is no reason not to have “secular friends” unless you feel disrespected or hurt by them. Obviously there are times when your friends may be doing things that do not line up with your values – drinking, having sex, etc. but that does not mean you should stop being friends with them, especially if you want to impact them for Christ! I mean, honestly, you are so much better able to impact those you are close to than simple acquaintances! If you like hanging out with these people and if these friends do not belittle your faith and support you in what you do, then there is no reason to be close. You may find it difficult to completely open up to secular friends, as they may not understand all of your viewpoints…which is why it’s important to at least have one or two close Christian friends that can sympathize with you.
|October 19, 2015 at 07:16|
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