Hey girls. So, currently I’ve been dealing with some self esteem issues. Well, tbh, this is nothing new. I don’t think I’ve ever been truly self-confident.
My whole life I have never really been popular or even accepted at some points to be honest. I have never had that many friends, though I certainly don’t have NO friends.
Anyway, as I have mentioned about 100 times before, no guys have ever been interested in me. So, there’s this one strange guy who I went to school with in like seventh grade who was interested in me, but other than that nada.
I know we are not supposed to put our value in what guys think of us, but I’m starting to worry about myself. Is something wrong with me? I have been socially off my whole life but my mom says I’m getting better.
I know that God cares about me so much, but here’s the thing. Take my friend who is dating and my same age. God loves her the same as me, AND she has a guy’s love on top of that.
I guess I sometimes feel I’m not worthy or worry something is seriously off and unattractive about me that I guess my friends don’t have.
Any advice? Thank you. And also, how can I see myself how God sees me and look at the potential I do have?
|September 25, 2016 at 21:54|
Being confident in myself is the hardest thing I have ever tried to do. I have never been that person everyone liked, never anyone first choice, and I am very socially awkward. But what does their opinions matter?
So in closing, I don’t know if that actually answers the question or if I just started rambling mindlessly, but take what I say to heart anyway. You deserve to love yourself, because love literally created you.
” You owe yourself the love that you so freely give to other people.”
|September 25, 2016 at 22:54|
I think being aware that everyone has been afraid, had doubts, done stupid stuff (or…does stupid stuff haha), is brilliant (including you–if you’ve ever studied neuroscience or psychology you’ll know what I mean: our brains are so incredibly complex and amazing and smart) is awkward and on an on and on you sort of realize you’re actually not so different from everyone else, and it doesn’t really matter what people think of you.
Then (when you don’t really care what people think about you) you can tell the truth–instead of saying or acting how you think other people want you to act–and truth is really what connects us to other people.
I hope that makes sense, I’ve kind of been thinking about it for awhile but I’ve never written it down so I’m sorry if it sounds strange 😛
|September 26, 2016 at 12:13|
But I definitely understand what you’re saying, I’ve struggled a lot with self esteem issues and right now I feel really frustrated because all I have is casual friends, my closer friends are in another state.
@Juanita~ I apologized to myself too!! Last summer, when I was getting out of self-hatred, I thought about all the horrible things I had thought and said to myself. They were things you would never, ever say to someone else. So why would we think it’s ok to say them to ourself?
|September 26, 2016 at 12:43|
@Juanita–I TOTALLY agree. I’ve never had a problem with guys and I’m glad, but I can’t look back on a single thing i’ve done without cringing. If your problem is embarrassment and lack of self confidence–then I can totally suggest just *accepting* things. This sounds weird, so let me explain…
|September 26, 2016 at 17:35|
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