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Okay, I am really lost with this. Someone asked for my opinion on this and I think the opinion I gave them beforehand might have been misinformed.

Matthew 5:28 says “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”. When I first heard this I thought alrighty having a sexual thought about someone is wrong. Take your thoughts captive. Period. I also read an opinion on a Christian site saying that “having sexual thoughts about someone else is lowering the value of another individual as you’re just using them a pawn in your fantasy”. Originally, I agreed with this and shared this opinion with the individual.

However, then I became unsure about my opinion. Adultery, defined by google, is “voluntary intercourse between a married person and an individual who is not their spouse” So, is the person in the scripture a married man having sexual thoughts about someone other than is wife? If so, does that mean single people can have sexual thoughts? Anytime I hear about sex, it is always talked in the context of marriage which I agree with. However, if a single person has sexual thoughts with the context being their wedding night, is that sinful?

Then, a fellow Christian told me that having sexual thoughts about another isn’t wrong, it’s just a natural part of pubescence. It’s okay to have sexual thoughts about another. But, then I thought “wait, I’m not sure about that.” There’s times when I think “wait if I tell a little lie in this situation…” or “well, this pen was just lying on the desk and I need one to complete this piece of work…” if I accept these thoughts, then it would still be considered the sinful act of lying or stealing. These are thoughts that come naturally to me but when the temptation comes up I have to take my thoughts captive and overcome it with the lord helping me. (Okay those weren’t great examples but I hope you guys get the jist.” So, then I thought isn’t the case of having sexual thoughts about another just another example of a time of taking your thoughts captive?

Now, I’m unsure of where I stand now. I’m leaning towards my initial opinion but I’m not fully there. Your thoughts?

November 10, 2016 at 14:38


Hey Courage! I’ve been thinking about how to reply and here’s my answer:
Some sexual thoughts are just part of growing up, but I don’t think we should dwell on them. A Christian man, John Stott, said “Holiness starts in the mind. This means that again, while some sexual thoughts are simply part of growing up, we should guard our hearts and minds from overthinking on it.
Sexual thoughts, in excess, can lead to other addictive and hard to break away from things like porn and masturbation, to name a couple. Satan can easily use our status as sexual creatures to twist our views of godly sex into things that lead us away from God.
Hope this helped! Have an AWESOME day 😀

November 11, 2016 at 10:03
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