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musicaldreamer98

musicaldreamer98

Please hear me out because I know this topic is controversial but I need guidance. So, I’m a girl, and I’m starting to having feelings for someone of the same gender. I like men too, but I don’t know how to face this. The verses in Leviticus are hard to justify because in the original text it’s a lot different than the English translations. I need some advice and please do not be rude. Love you guys.

December 26, 2014 at 17:48
NerdyChick334

NerdyChick334

Honestly, it depends on what you believe about what the Bible says. I personally believe all loving and monogamous relationships are okay and should be considered marriage. I believe that marriage is intended for the two people to be a reflection of God’s love to the other person and I don’t believe same-sex relationships violate that in any way. Like we even tell you for hetero-crushes and relationships, pray about it. Listen to what the Spirit is telling you with a pure heart that’s following Jesus’ example.

I’d say wait to see how she feels about you and treat it as you would any other crush. The subject does make for controversy and different interpretations. I hope that whatever conclusion you come to regarding this, . your relationship with God becomes stronger because of your contemplation and struggle. God bless!

December 26, 2014 at 21:57
Angiebello

Angiebello

Hmmm..i think you should read try to understand your bible better cus it will help..every answer you need is there. I don’t think its right to have a same sex partner. Do things that keep you busy and not thinking of her. think of what you know is right and what would build a better relationship with God πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

December 28, 2014 at 12:20
SlinkyKitty88

SlinkyKitty88

*applauds Nerdy*

December 29, 2014 at 12:59
jbrown346

jbrown346

This was from a blog that I wrote last year. I have struggled with very similar things in my past, but the Lord has brought the Scripture in the blog to convict me and change my heart and bring me away from those sins. http://jbrown346.wordpress.com/2013/12/20/and-such-were-some-of-you/

December 29, 2014 at 15:57
vickifay

vickifay

Hey there. I haven’t visited this site in a couple years, but I found it again and a lot has changed for me. I used to struggle with my attraction towards ladies too, and it confused me because I still had the same attraction towards men. Then I found a pretty good community of people on tumblr who feel the same way I do, and they helped me see that this attraction wasn’t wrong. I’ve identified as bisexual for two years now, and it’s the happiest and most confident in myself I’ve ever been.
My point is, don’t be afraid to confront your feelings. There’s nothing wrong with feeling attraction to people of any gender, and once you find a label you’re comfortable with you’ll feel a lot better about yourself.

December 30, 2014 at 09:46
marysetrueblood

marysetrueblood

Spot on with vickifay and nerdygirl. I’m bisexual, too, and honestly, I felt closer to my faith when I accepted myself because I was not lying to myself or God about who I love and how I feel. Lots of lgbt religious people I know report the same feelings!

December 30, 2014 at 16:50
SereneInChrist

SereneInChrist

Pray. Pray. Pray. No matter what this world has to say, just listen to His one voice and pray.
He will tell you.
I understand both sides, the battle for equal marriage and the battle to stand up for traditional marriage, so I’m not coming from one side exactly or the other. At the moment, I’m feeling a no towards it all, but I can tell you I surely had my past where I supported gay marriage and know the ‘facts’. So I’m not coming from a “because that’s how I was raised to think” perspective.
and honestly, this world is so confusing, I can’t give you a direct answer but I promise you if you just pray, and honestly look out for what God has to say, He will tell you.
Just watch out for bullies, mean preachers who will scare you to death; they put a terrible reputation on Christianity and make us look like crazy, fear infused people.
Don’t let bullying stories persuade your feelings toward something. Just because someone gets beat up for being a bisexual, for example, doesn’t make the bullying okay, but that doesn’t mean people who also don’t support gay marriage are going to be those mean preachers or awful people.
I have a friend who supports traditional marriage and she’s kind to everyone! πŸ™‚
Maybe a few videos I picked from youtube will help as food for thought.
A lot of religious organizations won’t feel “real” when talking about ex gay testimonies;
and even if this isn’t what you end up believing, I’d just figured watching some down- to- earth ones if you’re curious would be better than what some ex-gay promoters put out there.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9RzDhmm6II

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7612rLieX9A

Lots of hugs and best wishes on figuring everything out with God. πŸ™‚

December 30, 2014 at 20:37
eaucel

eaucel

Same-sex romantic relationships are NOT Biblical. Yes, we should love everyone with the same self-sacrificing love Jesus loved us with, but romantic relationships are meant for one man and one woman and that’s it. We all struggle with different sin and attraction to the same gender happens to affect many people. Prayer and time spent with God is the best route to take.

December 31, 2014 at 04:11
Emilyitude

Emilyitude

First off, ok yes, Leviticus is confusing BUT 1 Timothy 1 mentions homosexuality as a “contrary to sound teaching”. Romans 1 says it is a “dishonorable passion” and “contrary to nature”. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 reads “Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.”
So there you have the word of God, telling you that homosexuality is not right. That case is closed.
Now, you’re asking for guidance regarding having feelings for someone of the same gender. This is a tough one, because I don’t know exactly what you’re feeling. It is possible that these feelings are just a phase, or this certain person just gives this weird vibe to you. (People are going to internet punch me for saying clichΓ© stuff, but reread the way I say it and I think I’m right, it is possible. ClichΓ© for a reason people.) Really the only advice I can truly give for going through ANY complicated situation, such as this one, is as follows: 1) get off the internet. Sure these girls might tell you ALL THAT THEY KNOW ABOUT EVERYTHING, and you might go on other websites and read all sorts of stuff, and maybe there’s good stuff somewhere on this freaking world wide web, and maybe there’s crap too. BUT I recommend 2) searching the Bible for all it has to say. The Bible is the word of God, and God is the maker of the universe, so He knows everything about it. And He made you so He knows everything about you too, and He made this girl you like so He knows everything about her, and He is really the one you should be going to for advice. So reading your Bible and 3) PRAYING should be what you should do.
I don’t have the answers. I don’t think any of these girls here on the internet do either, no offence. I know you probably hear that you should pray and read your Bible and that sounds nice and all, but it also sounds like weak advice, but it isn’t because it will genuinely help if you go into it with a heart ready to be molded by God. James 4:8 says “Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.”

December 31, 2014 at 15:55
SereneInChrist

SereneInChrist

I just would like to add, if my last message sounded too fuzzy, that I don’t support homosexuality, bisexuality, or any of those things.

January 1, 2015 at 01:49
marysetrueblood

marysetrueblood

I would like you to know that many, many organizations out there exist for LGBT teenagers who are Christian, that plenty of individuals and even churches do not condemn it, and that your sexuality is a part of how you experience the world, and not evil.
After all, Oscar Wilde became a Catholic, and he was gay. And a Gay Christian Network exists for people who need support, and there’s a gay church in my city (I don’t go bc I’m mostly content with my Catholic one but I’m happy it’s there)
Don’t ever feel alone, excluded, pushed out of your faith, or like you’re disgusting, okay? This is the stuff that leads to tragedy, and it’s all based on poisonous lies. No matter what you decide, you’re beautiful, hun, okay?
And if your lgbt and in crisis, check out The Trevor Project, it’s an lgbt suicide prevention website with a hotline and a chatroom. Also, Daniel Radcliffe supports it.

January 1, 2015 at 05:38
vickifay

vickifay

Seconding everything that maryse has said! It’s a struggle at first to find where your identity fits in with your faith, but there are tons of support networks out there so you can feel welcome no matter how you identify.

(@maryse: I didn’t notice before since I was on mobile, but nice Mortal Instruments pic! Looks like we’ve got two things in common :))

January 1, 2015 at 09:40
chloe523

chloe523

I think that you should pray about it and ask God what these feelings are that you are experiencing. I have a lot of friends that I go to church with that say they have had feelings like this for girls, but they eventually realized that while they did love the girl, it wasn’t in a romantic way. Sometimes when you are really close to someone, it just gets kind of fuzzy what you really want in your relationship with that person. With that said, if it turns out that the way you feel about this girl is in a romantic way, treat it like any other relationship and go for it. And don’t let anti-LGTB pastors or anyone for that matter scare you or make you feel like you’re not God’s beautiful creation. Be you and do what you feel will make you happy because that’s what matters. At this point, I feel it is unneeded to state my opinion on the subject because honestly, no matter what I think or what anyone else on here thinks, you deserve to make this choice yourself and choose what makes you happy. God will help you through this situation no matter what happens πŸ™‚

January 1, 2015 at 15:30
marysetrueblood

marysetrueblood

(Vicki omg really? Yeah, my username is Maryse Trueblood too, which is Alec & Izzy’s mum’s maiden name haha. So glad to find a fellow TMI fan who’s also defending lgbt kids! *high fivws*
Chloe does have a point. I mean. Anyone can have a crush that turns out not to be a crush and you totally should like, rush pursuing ANYONE you aren’t sure about if you don’t want to. But it’s also totally okay to let yourself go ‘okay. I’m attracted to this person.’ And, heck, even if you’re not into ~one particular girl~ doesn’t mean you might not like others.

January 2, 2015 at 12:42
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