I know that there was an article on this site about this a few months ago, but I am curious as to what y’all think. Why, you might ask? Well, I know this fantastic guy. He’s one of my best friends, has a heart for God, and makes me feel pretty special. I have liked him for a while now. Well, yesterday, he and I were texting, and he told me that he had a date for his prom. He told me her name, and mentioned that I should look her up on Facebook. Well, I did, and I regret it. She is everything that I am not. Perfect face, gorgeous hair, perfect body, athletic, talented, and I’m willing to bet she has a great personality. I have NEVER cried over a guy before, and this guy had a girlfriend a while back and even though I liked him then, I didn’t get upset. Well I spent like a half hour crying. One reason I cried was because these feelings of never being good enough came crashing down on me. If I can’t be good enough for the one guy I’ve ever liked this much, then will I ever be? But I also cried because I wonder if maybe I should have told him that I like him? At least I feel like I should have given him some signals, as my personality is super hard to read. So I guess I want to know if I should have told him how I feel. I know it could potentially ruin the friendship, and I don’t want to do it now because this girl might be the one God has for him, but I just feel so stupid.
|February 2, 2015 at 05:41|
Aww I feel so bad for you! Anyways, there is nothing wrong with making the first move, but don’t beat yourself up over the fact that you didn’t. Also, I sort of wonder why he told you to look her up. That seems a little strange. Are you guys like really really close friends? It sort of sounds like he is trying to flaunt her. I don’t know the two of you, but that’s just what it sounds like.
|February 2, 2015 at 06:37|
Actually, all of his friends have wanted to know her name so that they could see her, so he said he assumed that I would want to as well. xD I told him I didn’t really care either way, but I figured I would look her up anyway. But in other news, I had a really horrible day yesterday, and when I asked this guy to pray for me, he asked if I wanted to tell him about it. We’ve talked on the phone before, so I asked if I could call him. Well, he called me, and listened to me crying and pouring out my heart for like ten minutes. (It was a family issue). And then he just talked to me and helped me to calm down. Which is probably why he is one of my best friends.
|February 3, 2015 at 05:06|
Oh ok. That makes your relationship a little bit clearer. I am sure that him not seeing you as more than a friend has anything to do with your appearance. Maybe he knew the girl longer, hung out with her. I don’t know, but when this happens you can’t take it personally. The exact same thing happened to my sister, and she did take it personally. Funny thing is is that my sister is SUPER attractive. Srsly she could be a model. So it has absolutely nothing to do with appearance. Every guy is attracted to different things in girls (and every girl is attracted to different characteristics in guys) so don’t be upset that he wasn’t attracted to you. There will be a great guy out there who will be super attracted to your unique personality and appearance. Don’t be in any hurry to find him, you have your whole life ahead of you. *hugs*
|February 3, 2015 at 09:55|
Sometimes people just don’t have that chemistry with each other and for some reason, maybe he just doesn’t see you two being together. It’s not necessarily because there is anything about you that he doesn’t like, maybe it’s just because there’s something about your friendship that is too good to risk.
|February 5, 2015 at 16:59|
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