I never had a crush. My younger sister (less than a year difference, same grade and all, but still…) always seemed to have enough crushes and drama for both of us. She’s not boy crazy, but she was always a lot more boy crazy than me. Anyways, without going into detail, I met the PERFECT guy. Perfect as in I’ve had multiple school friends come to church with me and then break up with their boyfriends the next day because they realize good guys aren’t just fairytales after meeting him. I met him at a singing competition our sisters were competing in, and we spent almost all day talking. I left the comp with this feeling of “There’s something really special about this guy.” His family started attending my church soon afterwards. He stopped me and asked me about a special program I’d applied to at our local university– he’d remembered, even after almost three weeks. It was the first time any one did that for me. Flash forward 2 years and it gets kind of complicated. He is always the perfect gentleman to me and everyone else. He’s the first to volunteer if someone needs help. He sings like an angel and plays guitar like nobody’s business. I’ve never seen anyone so in love with God. He challenges me to do better, be better, and live my life with abandon for Christ. I love him. I’ve known that since the beginning, but that scares me because I never even really had a crush. Also, when we graduate I will be staying in town and he could possibly have to move 2 hours away for his particular area of study. Problem 2, is that all of our sisters know. I think they already have our wedding planned out, and they’re constantly trying to push us together. I love them all, but I treasure my friendship with him too much to pursue a relationship at this time, and besides, I want him to pursue me, if he so chooses. Problem 3 is that the older of his little sisters is indisputably my best friend. When she found out I liked him, she was thrilled. I don’t think she realizes how much our relationship would change, especially if things didn’t work out between me and her brother. Last, but certainly not least, I am not ready for a serious relationship, and neither is he. I committed to myself that I would not enter a relationship until after high school. He’s always said he doesn’t want one until after college. That kind of makes this problem moot. Except, every time I’m with him, it’s like magnets. All I want is to be beside him. I’ll be talking to the girls and the whole time I’m looking for him, and I hate that, because I know what it feels like to be the friend ignored in favor of a guy. I guess I just don’t know what to do. I know that a relationship isn’t an option for us right now, but I feel like God put these feelings inside me for a reason. Help?
|May 19, 2015 at 06:19|
That is terribly rough… ultimately, this just needs time and prayer! Maybe talk to him and see how he feels and if this is something you guys could start talking more about. Start courting each other if there is an interest and see if it grows to become something, that way if there is not, it wouldn’t have been serious enough to become awkward for you or your friends/the sisters! I pray this helps!
|May 21, 2015 at 10:00|
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