I’ve been talking to this guy for several months now. Whenever we see each other all we really do is flirt, never really having any true conversations. But he recently told me he had gotten a girlfriend but still wanted to continue our “relationship”. He refers to me as his side girlfriend and he even went as far to say that I wasn’t an “independent woman anymore” when I didn’t do something he asked. He also has a huge tendency to flirt with other girls constantly, sometimes right in front of me, and he didn’t even try to find me to say goodbye the last time we saw each other (we live a few hours apart). He later texted me and said he didn’t know I wanted him to say goodbye to me and that he was sorry. I just don’t know what exactly to do. Everything about this ordeal feels so wrong, but I feel like I’m in too deep to walk away, and I keep hoping he will change as he gets older (he’s about two years younger than me). Should I continue this relationship or not? Thank you for any responses, it means a lot!
|October 31, 2016 at 14:32|
Well, it’s not ok to flirt with people when you are in a relationship, but some people are generally flirtatious…if you think this is the case, then maybe when he starts flirting, say “hey! you have a girlfriend, you aren’t an independent man either anymore!” in a kind of “joking” manner, and see how he reacts.
Having said that, this behavior doesn’t seem normal to me. I have a close guy friend, and we often joke that it’s as if we’re a couple, but not this far…
And you shouldn’t just wait it out, chances are, if you just go along with it, it’ll only get worse. Just imagine if his girlfriend knew about this…I wouldn’t like that if I was her!
|October 31, 2016 at 15:14|
I think be honest with him. Tell him that someday he’s gonna find a girl he really wants to be with and marry and bc of all his flirting she’s most likely not gonna like that very much. is he a christian? cuz you could always say “treat all girls like sisters and christ and dont lead them on with no intention at following through”
|November 1, 2016 at 06:47|
Absolutely not. This could even be abusive, later on, if he is treating you like his servant. It’s not fair that you must be faithful to him while he’s flirting around with other girls. You are just as important as he is and deserve to be treated as such.
|November 1, 2016 at 09:51|
What I’m saying might sound harsh but believe me, I speak from experience: I spent hours and hours trying to find in a guy’s (sometimes unacceptable) behavior signals that he liked ss me, but when a guy likes you you know, because he treats you like a princess, he cherishes you, he calls, he tries to make you happy. A guy who loves you is more than happy to tell everyone that you are his girlfriend. From what you say all I see is a guy who is using you to feed his ego. you deserve a guy that would scream from the rooftops that he loves you, not a guy that says that you are his “side” girlfriend .
|November 23, 2016 at 13:22|
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