Ladies, I have an issue. My best friend if nearly two years is really starting to get on my nerves. The thing is she can be dominating, controlling, calls me weak, judgemental, and a downright bad influence. The thing is… I love her to death. I have another friend who I’m obviously very fond of. Every time I mention her to my best friend she says she hates her. My other friend recently went through a break up and she’s really hurting. My best friend was extatic. I have a guy friend who she hates also. I don’t like it when’s she’s mean to my friends. I’ve used to invite her to every church gathering, but I’ve kind of stopped. It’s not like she isn’t a Christian. She attends church regularly. It just doesn’t seem to have a huge impact. She constantly talks about drugs, guys, sex etc. I try not to say anything or try to change her, but she’s told me she hates me and threatened me with public embarrassment. She constantly criticizes me for my music taste, personal style, and friends. Like I said, I still love her. I know from everything I’ve said she sounds like a terrible person, but she’s really not. She just… I don’t know how to say it. She’s been through some stuff, and I don’t wanna up and leave. That’s happened to me before, and I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. I don’t won’t to stop being friends with her, but if it comes to that… I try to be a good influence, but she just laughs. Please, I need help.
|January 27, 2016 at 11:05|
She seems to really be hurting you. A true best friend would never treat you that way. If you really don’t want to drop her, at least distance yourself from her a bit. Honestly I think it’s best to surround ourselves only with those who will encourage us in our walk with Christ. You’ve tried to be a good influence on her but she won’t seem to change. The best thing to do is pray for God to soften her heart and that she would come to know Christ.
|January 27, 2016 at 23:51|
I had a friend like that last year, im in 6th grade but I had a friend exactly like that last year. She was a bad influence and I decided to not be around someone like that hurts me. hope this helped
|March 10, 2016 at 11:53|
I’m actually going through almost the EXACT same thing! I say just stick with your other Godly friends and if she wants to talk to you about bad things, just go somewhere else or if you have to, make an excuse to walk away. Every time she pits you or ur friends down, don’t care about it. That’s her problem and you have to remember that God made everyone special. That includes your other friends, you, and even her! Remember to always show her respect and just let God do his thing! If you need to talk just tell me 😉 I’m here for you girl!
|March 24, 2016 at 16:11|
i have this friend whos almost exactly like that(but we’re in MS). I really love her and shes really fun to be around, but whenever we’re at church with our other friends she acts really bossy and ignoring what i say or she’ll seem bored with me. And she really doesn’t like my other friends from school. Shes met them before at out youth group but whenever i talk about them she doesnt really like it and tries to change the subject. But whenever she talks a lot about her friends i dont mind. And it gets so annoying when she acts like that even though i never say anything about her friends.
|September 30, 2016 at 08:09|
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