I am about done with the youth of my church. Our group is so negative, mean spirited and refuses to grow. We’ve gone through 3 youth pastors in the past couple years, and it has left the group in shambles. Right now, our youth pastor is named Dan, and don’t get me wrong, he is a great guy,but he is very temporary. His wife, Amy, is the intern pastor until next July, when they will probably leave to go to South Carolina or Washington. He works full time at another job and subsequently neglects his duties to us. This wouldn’t be the biggest problem if we had quality volunteers, but we don’t. Every single leader we have right now had been apart of this youth group as a kid, or actually led it way back when. Most are there only because it is a social event to hang out with their friends, the other leaders. The few that are there for the right reasons are sorry excuses for role models. One ‘leader’ for the middleschoolers is a 20 year old girl who plays a double life. One as a sweet church girl, the other as seen on her social media accounts, is a frat girl who does almost pornographic ‘modeling’ shoots and is drinking and partying every weekend. On the very other side of that, there is another leader who is at least 70 years old, and has been going to the church for about 50 of those years. He is in no position of authority, yet believes he is in charge of everything and everyone because “He has been at this church longer than pastor Dan has been alive”. He is the biggest problem of the youth, is the sole Sunday school teacher and allows us kids to feed off his negativity. He is extremely unbiblically sound, and Him and I have arguments all the time over whether or not Moses was a murderer, if Paul actually persecuted Christians and if it is “John the Baptist’ or “John the Baptismer”. He picks on students and has favorites that he puts above all others. Most Sunday school classes are just bash fests of the previous youth pastor, who was actually bullied out of his position by his very own volunteers. Our new Family Ministries director (who is also my mentor) wanted all Sunday school classes to start out in the sanctuary for the first 15 minutes of worship. This didn’t go to well with my lazy peers, who could care less about their faith, only about screwing around with our Problem guy. After 3 months of all out warfare between us and them, did I finally snap at him in class and we argued in front of the class. No adult should make a sixteen year old girl cry. Just saying. Now I am a leper of the group, and not welcome into the classroom. I went to the main pastor, who had a talk with Mr. Problem, who is stubborn as a mule and “has been here longer than the Pastor, so he has nothing over me. I can do whatever I want.” The worst part is that he can’t be taken from his position because, and I quote from the pastor, “he’s been in his position for so long, and the people he influences is too much. If he gets peeved off and leaves, others will follow, and those people are the main benefactors of the church. It would cause too much of a wave.”
|December 22, 2014 at 16:43|
Babe, I would say leave that church. It’s not your job to fix it, and it doesn’t sound like it’s following Christ or building anyone up spiritually.
Pray about where God would have you go (attending church IS important 🙂 ) and he will guide you to the best spot.
|December 28, 2014 at 18:32|
I know exactly how you feel. my youth group used to be just like and finally I was done and was about to leave when they changed it around. my advice to you is maybe not leave the church (if you don’t want to) and just find another youth group that’s what I did. that’s an option if you really want to stay in that church or your parents wont let you leave. im sorry your youth group is being this way PRAY PRAY PRAY about it. I agree with everything she said to lol Gods with you always!
|February 28, 2015 at 14:51|
If you live in NE Ohio. I know a good church. I went there before. It seemed cool.
|May 6, 2015 at 07:15|
I know how you feel — my church at times seems very disorganized, lost, and at a spiritual standstill, if you will. I used to feel (and sometimes still do– still working on it) just as you do; hopeless, irritated, and hungry for change and revival. I highly suggest praying about this. Share your frustrations with God, and ask him if you should leave or stay. Don’t simply leave without any thought; God may need you to be the change, the example, that church needs. There are many articles on this website called fervr.net (love it!!) about church hopping. I’d definitely be wary of the false teaching though…
|July 27, 2015 at 22:04|
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