So okay. I have this I guess odd situation. I met this guy at a Cru (Campus Crusade for Christ) Christmas party back in December. We talked in a group of our friends for like maybe an hour and it kept digressing to me and him talking and then our other friends talking to each other. He’s so easy to talk to (which is very odd for me because I have really bad anxiety especially when talking to the opposite sex) and so we were really hitting it off. Then he tells me he’s a grad student at my university. And then I realized he’s like 26 and I’m 18 almost 19. Yeah… I’ve seen him once since then but we talk occasionally on facebook and instagram. My real issue is that I think he likes me, I’m not sure about my feelings for him, they’re not negative but idk. He like spams my pictures on instagram occasionally and likes my statuses on facebook and such. I don’t know. I’m an incredibly good judge of character and the “stalker” vibe doesn’t really come up. I know he’s a Christian and he goes to my church (but we go to different services so I never see him) and to be honest, if he was like 20 I wouldn’t probably be asking for advice. Is it weird that the age difference is holding me back? Honestly, I didn’t notice it when we first met until he brought up he was a grad student. I just am in a pickle and advice would be appreciated.
|March 7, 2015 at 08:08|
Well right now you can just be his friend and don’t worry about it. But later if he were to ask you out or something, if you don’t feel comfortable with it, say no, and if you do want to go out with him then say yes. simple as that. Right now just be his friend and get to know him better and let time help you figure out your feelings for him.
|March 8, 2015 at 12:10|
Well if you don’t know your feelings yet, it’s a little to hard to tell. Some other things to think about are: are you ready to date? When you date, what is your goal with the relationship? If you dated, would age be a problem? With this guy, how does he feel/think about dating? Is it just for fun or for a more serious commitment?
Of course, since you don’t know if you like him or not, just keep him as a friend. But determine whether you would feel OK with dating him.
|March 8, 2015 at 12:55|
This might sound a little off but I don’t notice the age difference. Like when he told me he was a grad student at my uni I was surprised because we seemed to be on the same maturity level (not in a he’s immature way) my only problem is, other people (namely my parents) might have a problem with the age difference. I don’t really see him enough in person (I’ve only seen him twice, when we met and I bumped into him once on campus) to really make that kind of decision on whether I’d be interested in dating him specifically. To be honest, I’d rather not date right now. I’m not really looking to be in a relationship but I also don’t think I’d be opposed to one. If I get into one, I get into one. If I don’t, that’s fine too.
|March 8, 2015 at 15:11|
honestly if you wouldn’t have even noticed the age difference if you didn’t know about it, then it shouldn’t be a problem. If you feel like you aren’t ready to be in a relationship then just concentrate on the friendship with him(: Eventually it will become obvious whether you both are meant to be. Pray pray pray! For him and about the whole situation. God has great plans for your life and He will reveal them all in time(: I’ll be praying for you!
|March 8, 2015 at 18:47|
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