Hey girls! I posted this in high school girl talk but I guess I’ll post it here too.
So recently I’ve fallen for this guy at my theater. I enjoy the hours spent hanging out with him and it’s just so much fun. Though the only problem is is there’s these girls (or one in particular). This one girl is always clinging onto him, hugging him, and a whole lot of physical contact. She has a huge crush on him and tells everyone their dating (though that guy said it himself they weren’t). And honestly it doesn’t look like he likes it. The girl isn’t in this play so i get to use that time to get to know him a little better but she still isn’t completely gone from the picture. I heard from a friend that that girl is actually struggling with depression, so that makes it a little harder. We even had this dance at our theater and he asked me to dance. Though I heard that the girl was upset that he wasn’t spending time with her and it was just a lot of drama that night. Should I continue trying with him or just leave it all? I don’t want to hurt that girl more than she already is, and if she figures out that he asked me to dance that would just be terrible.
I’m just super confused right now and I’d love some guidance from a sister in Christ. Thanks guys!
|February 3, 2016 at 20:54|
Oh goodness, I so very much dislike physical contact. It messes up so much… but anyway…
I think your crush probably tolerates the girl flirting with him and telling people all that stuff about how they’re “dating” because he knows she’s hurting. See, we don’t give guys a lot of credit for what they observe, but they can be very observant. He probably knows she’s been struggling with depression (maybe she even told him- girls get VERY trusting with guys they like) and doesn’t quite know how to help, so he tries to be there for her, she likes him more, and… yeah. It’s confusing. As for what you should do, I think you should kinda step back and observe. Continue your friendship with this guy, try to keep it from becoming something that you’re extremely emotionally invested in, as that is INCREDIBLY hard to get out of, and maybe try to be a friend to this girl. She probably feels alone, and looks to the approval of this guy for her confidence. Pray for them both, and ask God for guidance on your next move. Good luck girl!
|February 10, 2016 at 22:17|
I used to be a girl like that where I was really clingy with one guy but I then relized he didn’t have the same feelings for me maybe he can tell her how he feels I know that it will probably hurt her but it will be for the best she will move on and for you just pray that GOD will show her the way to the right guy. I hope this helps
|March 10, 2016 at 11:53|
I hope everything gets better, I’d appreciate if you let me know how it all goes. God bless you all! ❤️
|March 10, 2016 at 11:54|
Here’s the thing. The girl who’s depressed, she most likely does like this guy, but not as much as you think. You see, she could he trying to use as an excuse to be happy, she might be trying to find happiness there, in this “relationship” they’re in. Get to know her more, get to know him more. Pray for her. I think this guy likes you and you should be sensitive to her. But, if it’s part of God’s plan for you to be with this guy, she shouldn’t stand in the way, that might sound rude, but it’s honestly just the truth, she has someone in store for her too.
|March 10, 2016 at 12:05|
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