So over the summer, I went through an awful breakup. My ex managed to let me down multiple times and overall just hurt me very terribly. I had to start college carrying all this on my back and it was really damaging to me, but I’ve recovered quite a bit since then.
Anyway, there’s this boy in both my English and psychology classes. I have both those classes on the same days (Monday, Wednesday, and Friday). I’ve always thought he was cute and friendly, and enjoyed talking to him during group work and stuff like that. He’s smiled at me before. But recently, I started getting butterflies around him. I know that it’s just a silly, meaningless crush at this point.
But then I checked out his Facebook and found that he likes a ton of the same books, movies, and music I do. He’s a Christian and a theater kid, like me. And I want to get to know him better.
So I sat by him Friday in psychology and we had a long conversation before and after class. He’s really outgoing and easy to talk to.
I don’t want to lose touch after the semester, and I guess I just want some advice on how to keep talking to him as much as I can. I know it sounds silly, but I’ve never been very good at talking to boys. I guess what I’m trying to ask is… how can I keep this up?
|October 31, 2015 at 20:17|
Great job on reaching out to this guy! He seems really awesome 🙂 Do you have his phone number? If so, I would try texting on the days that you don’t see each other and try to get together outside of class (even if to study or at a Bible study or something). If he has the same feelings for you as you do for him, you might just end up as a super cute couple! That sort of stuff takes time (at least for me it does– I am about at the same point you are but it has taken a while) but it is probably going to be worth it
|November 1, 2015 at 13:08|
|November 1, 2015 at 14:12|
I would recommend getting his number 🙂 A good excuse would be that you didn’t understand something from class, you need help with the homework, or you were wondering if he would want to work on an assignment together. People in my classes exchange numbers all the time. I’m a junior and probably have close to 100 peoples numbers that are just random people from classes. All I’m saying is that it’s not weird to exchange numbers with a classmate and that if by chance he didn’t feel the same way, he wouldn’t take it as an unwanted advance. But I do think he likes you, so if I were you, I would ask if he wanted to work together on something and then when he says yes, I would say, “Awesome, I’ll give you my number so we can set something up.” Or something to that effect. Ideally, he would then give you his number, but if not he will most likely still text you soon. If he gives you his number, I would text him later that evening. Start the conversation with something school-related, and then you can bring up other normal conversation stuff to get to know him better without it being weird. I would advise against adding him on Facebook unless he has a couple mutual friends. If he has a couple mutual friends, you can always start the conversation with something like, “Hey, I just saw you on my suggested friends!” and then say whatever else you want to say to get the conversation started. If he doesn’t have any mutual friends, I wouldn’t add him (at least until you get to know him a little better) because then he’ll know you were stalking him, and even though we all do it, it would still come across as weird. Hope this helps 🙂 And let us know how it goes!!
|November 8, 2015 at 22:09|
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