Ok so I’m not really one to have crushes, and I’m all for waiting for the right time and guy to come around. But, lately there’s this guy at my school who I’ve never really noticed but he’s really cute and has similar goals to me! I think about him a lot, and I don’t really know him that well, but we went to the same elementary school and everything, it’s just crazy that I never noticed him before. I know I’m not ready to date right now, and it’d be cool if I could friends with him for now, until I’m allowed to date next year ( I’m 17). So the question is should I make a move and try to be friends with him? He knows I exist but we don’t really talk much. How would I do that?? Or should I let him make the first move?? oh and he’s kind of shy, but pretty funny.
|December 19, 2014 at 12:57|
I’m almost at the same place as you. It’s hard:p I like the idea of waiting for him to do all initiations but my goodness he’s shy! Haha so I understand how you feel. Because you never know if he’s jsut being shy or if he isn’t even aware that you like him or what?! I think it’s hardest with shy guys because of that. I don’t think there is anything wrong with being friendly so he knows that you want to be a friend. Eventually all guy who are man enough for a relationship will initiate (even the shy ones! They just have to work up a little more courage;) ) I guess all I’m saying is don’t stand in the shadows and hope it works:p Put yourself out in the light and if it’s meant to be (as friendship or relationship) he will initiate (:
|December 21, 2014 at 19:25|
Well if I were you I would get to know him. That way you know who he is and if you want to date him. Making friends is really fun (for me that is). Also if it is just friendship and nothing more why not make “the first move”. Good luck I hope that everything goes well.
|December 21, 2014 at 19:26|
thanks so much guys I really appreciate it! 🙂
|December 22, 2014 at 17:05|
I agree, go ahead and make friends with him! You’ll get to know his true character and how he is spiritually (which is very important).
|December 22, 2014 at 20:39|
ok thanks! Do you guys have any conversation starters??
|December 24, 2014 at 23:49|
Best conversation starter ever: Hey.
|December 29, 2014 at 07:16|
Thats kinda how it was for me and my bf. We sat by each other in Physics&Calc (at this one regional thing that we would go to everyday for 3 hours then go back to our own high schools) (and he was SUPER SHY) so we were put in a lab group together most of the time so we were friends for almost a year and then we started texting throughout the summer to keep in touch since our goals/aspirations/thinking styles are similar and afterwards we realized we really just genuinely enjoyed being together. ANYWHO. Basically we both prayed about it AFTER we decided we liked each other and then set some ground rules for our relationship.
Ok, so going back to your question: Yes, you should totally chat it up with him!! Talk/ask about things that he seems interested in and mention some stuff you like. Jokes are also a good thing to fall back on lol
|January 27, 2015 at 18:15|
I can’t believe that people are suggesting that you shouldn’t initiate. Good Lord! Its not like you are proposing to him. lol 🙂 There is nothing wrong with YOU going and saying hi to him and initiating a nice conversation. Maybe when the time is right you will even be the one to ask him on a date. You never know with these things, but don’t be shy. You’ve got this!! 😀 Also pray about it, and if you are really terrified than ask God to open more doors for you to be around him.
|February 1, 2015 at 11:17|
If you have a Facebook then you can send him a friends request. That may show him that something is up.
|February 1, 2015 at 11:18|
Ok thanks so much guys! I’ve been trying to chat with him lately and so far it’s been pretty good 🙂 thanks for all the advice!
|February 1, 2015 at 16:33|
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