So I went out with this boy for a year, and I was absolutely 100% totally and utterly convinced that he was The One. I was so very in love with him, with feelings that I cannot even describe. I honestly thought that God was telling me that he was the one, and that we would get married. But not everything was perfect with the actual relationship – he would make me insecure to the point that I got severe anxiety, and I was constantly terrified that he would break up with me. And after 4 months of him being away in another country for the summer and not speaking to me while he was there, almost as soon as he came back, he broke up with me. That was now 3 years ago, and I’ve had another boyfriend for 2 and a half years now. He’s lovely, and on the surface our relationship is absolutely perfect. But I’ve never got those same feelings for him as I did with the first guy. I really really like him, but I’m not overwhelmingly in love, and I definitely don’t know that he’s The One. But the worst thing is, I still feel like the first guy is. I can’t stop loving him and can’t get over the feeling that we should be together. I know he still likes me too, but he said he could never go out with me again. I’m so confused. Either I was wrong, and I misheard God, in which case I can’t ever trust what I think God’s saying, and why can’t I get this love for this boy out of my head? OR, God was right, in which case, WHAT is happening right now?
I just don’t know what to do, please help?
|December 5, 2014 at 06:21|
Ooh, that’s a dilemma. You could write off boys forever. That’s always an option.
|December 5, 2014 at 14:11|
Yikes, it’s the notebook in real life…this is crazy and I don’t know what to tell you, but I will pray for you. I hope the best for you, and that you can get this sorted out. I think the most important thing to consider is, is your ex, who you truly feel in love with, a good and holy man that would make a good husband? If you can answer yes, you might consider changing your situation..If not, you should maybe think about all the reasons you appriciate your current boyfriend. I’m not one to believe in soulmates. I believe there are plenty of men that we could spend the rest of our lives with happily. And that when the romance and butterflies fade, you choose to stick it out for worse or for better. I hopet that God gives you wisdom to make the right decision, and just know that someday this is going to be ok<3
|December 5, 2014 at 20:33|
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