Okay, here’s the deal. I see a lot of Christian girls who want to or do wear bikinis and see nothing wrong. I even have friends who see nothing wrong but their parents are begging to differ. Here’s my situation: I know what comes with wearing bikinis. I know that, whether or not people want to admit it, girls who wear bikinis do get more attention. They get more side glances and more boys have thoughts just because of what they’re wearing. I understand that, and when I say I want to wear them, the attention doesn’t phase me or my decision. Boys will be boys and they will have those thoughts whether or not we want them to, that’s just the way it goes. To be completely honest, I don’t think I even care about the negative male attention, because I’m not looking for it, and it doesn’t bother me. Okay, so my mom is totally fine with me wearing bikinis as long as they’re not skimpy (and I don’t have any desire to look like I’m begging for desperate boys), but my dad is 100% not cool with it. And I know that’s natural for a dad to not want his daughter to be wearing anything revealing. On the other hand, my logic is that I’m not any different from other girls. We all have the curves, some more and some less, we all have the female body parts, again some more and some less, and honestly, I don’t understand what the big deal is. I’ve actually read some Christian articles that practically tear girls down for wearing them, and that to me is just about the least bit Christian you can be on such a topic. So if someone takes the time to read this whole thing, seriously share your thoughts and opinions, because I want to know what other people would tell me.
|February 22, 2015 at 14:29|
Haha we have soooooooo many posts on modesty here. If you don’t get many answers, check through the random thoughts and questions topics, and you’ll find them 😉
Here’s what I think: Modesty is all about your heart. That being said, I think if your heart is right you won’t go around wearing ridiculously revealing clothes, because you’ll be confident in who you are and won’t need to attract that attention.
But a swimsuit is a swimsuit, and to me, saying it’s wrong for a girl to reveal her stomach is a double standard.
In the Bible, the verses that speak of dressing modestly mean you shouldn’t wear overly expensive clothing and jewelry around people who have a lot less than you–you shouldn’t flaunt your wealth.
|February 22, 2015 at 15:31|
^ She’s right, the Bible doesn’t say modesty means wearing more clothes or covering more skin.
I think it’s just as ridiculous the “Yoga pants are immodest” thing.
|February 22, 2015 at 19:01|
Okay, so here is where I stand. My parents would never let me out of the house with a bikini on! Honestly I am not a guy, so I can’t say, but it does get boys, well…. excited. It is a fact that boys do well, lust. I don’t understand why, but it’s true. I think we should support our brothers in Christ. Again this is just my opinion. 😀
|February 22, 2015 at 20:16|
I think girls can lust just as boys do. Don’t guys without a shirt on get more attention than the ones with a shirt on? Boys AND girls have hormones that can rage. Point is, wear what you want. (Well, I don’t support disobeying your parents, but if your an adult, I say wear what you want)
|February 22, 2015 at 21:00|
I don’t know… I think it’s a personal decision. But really we do need to protect our brothers in Christ… guys are visual and therefore have more issues when it comes to lust and those kinds of things. I have worn bikinis before, but I have since learned how it makes guys react and think and stumble… and for me personally I don’t want to be the reason why a guy backslides. And while I can’t keep a guy from sinning, I can try my best to help their thoughts stay pure.
Romans 14:20-23- Don’t tear apart the work of God over what you eat. Remember, all foods are acceptable, but it is wrong to eat something if it makes another person stumble. It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or do anything else if it might cause another believer to stumble. You may believe there’s nothing wrong with what you are doing, but keep it between yourself and God. Blessed are those who don’t feel guilty for doing something they have decided is right. But if you have doubts about whether or not you should eat something, you are sinning if you go ahead and do it. For you are not following your convictions. If you do anything you believe is not right, you are sinning.
So yeah… and when these verses talk about eating food and whatnot, just insert wearing clothes… 🙂
|February 23, 2015 at 08:49|
Honestly, up to the wearer. If you don’t like a lot of swimsui material toucing you, or you like the bikini? Go on ahead, it’s swimwear and it’s up to you. Feel unflattered or unsafe or just think they’re uncomfy? Also super super cool
|February 23, 2015 at 14:47|
STaylor, Please don’t take take Bible verses out of context.
|February 23, 2015 at 15:13|
@Vessel, same, I have a pet peeve about that myself.
|February 23, 2015 at 17:15|
I agree with your stance. However, I checked out your profile out of curiosity, and it said that you were only 11. If I were you I might want to wait until I was at least 16. You may also have more luck with your dad at that age.
|February 23, 2015 at 17:20|
Jeez that last sentence could be taken the wrong way. Just realized that! 🙂
|February 23, 2015 at 17:21|
I still don’t quite know *exactly* where I stand on this, personally. I go back and forth. Mainly: I DO think modesty is about the heart and intentions, I DO think we should be discerning in how much of our bodies we are showing to others, I DO think that it is about occasion (I’m a swimmer, and the only part of my body I don’t show when wearing a one piece that I would show in a two piece is my stomach, so it doesn’t make sense to be discriminatory against bikinis; also, it’s perfectly normal for guys to wear speedos, and those show far more than a bikini), I DO think that a lot of that is personal and you should pray about it to discern what is right for you and will keep you in a good place with God, I do NOT think that others’ lust is our fault, I do NOT agree with the stance that boys struggle with lust more/are more “visual” because I am a girl and good heavens I can tell you that it’s not just a guy problem, I do NOT think that it is right to say that girls should have to cover up for guys but not vice versa, I PERSONALLY feel like I shouldn’t wear more revealing clothes because my intentions would not be right, and I PERSONALLY am going to follow my mom’s standards as long as I am in her house.
If your mom is okay with it and your dad is not, first, ask your mom if she can talk to your dad, and if he’s firm in not wanting you to wear one, just go with it. It’s fine to respectfully disagree, but as long as you are a minor and living with your parents, it’s just plain right to listen to them and follow their standards for you. Once you are an adult and are making your own choices, you may choose to change those standards as long as your heart is in the right place, but until then, respect your parents enough to do what they ask of you. 🙂
On another note, I read/heard somewhere an interesting point that I’d like to say: it’s perfectly normal for guys to go shirtless and show their chests, and it would never ever be appropriate for a girl to go shirtless (in the context of our culture). However, a girls’ nipples (pardon me 😉 ) has biological purposes other than sexual arousal (feeding babies, LITERALLY helping sustain life), yet a guys’ has no purpose other than sexual arousal; therefore a girls’ chest is actually highly over-sexualized, and it really makes no sense if you think about it. Other thoughts on this?
|February 23, 2015 at 19:41|
Mandi~ Yes to your last paragraph! I agree 1,000%. Another interesting thing I heard is that in some cultures, it’s perfectly respectable for a woman to show her chest, but not to show her knees. Women are, unfortunately, highly over-sexualized.
I think dressing modestly has more to do with protecting yourself against other’s sinful thoughts than being responsible for them and not “causing them to stumble.” Does this make sense? For instance, I dress fairly modestly and it’s because I want people to respect me and not be staring at my body parts.
To clarify, I am in NO way, shape or form suggesting that a women who covers less of herself deserves to be respected less. Not at all. But because we live in such a sinful, over sexualized culture people WILL think more sexual, disrespectful thoughts towards a woman they deem “sexy” by societies’ standards, even though that’s clearly wrong.
Is a woman responsible for this? Absolutely not. But personally, I don’t want someone thinking that about me; it makes me uncomfortable. Yes, I know guys could think impure thoughts regardless of what you wear, but I think clothing does make a difference.
|February 23, 2015 at 20:33|
*wears bikinis. Has not received any more or less attention than when I wore one pieces or tankinis*
Ya know why? ‘Cause bikinis are ERRYWHERE. They’re normal swimwear. They really don’t cause as much of a reaction as one might expect (After hearing OMGOODNESS BIKINIS ARE SATAN’S INVENTION USED TO TURN GOD FEARING MEN INTO MINDLESS SEX MONKEYS” for years).
Wear what you comfy in. Listen to the smart girls who have posted here already.
|February 24, 2015 at 01:01|
Mandi someone who was preaching at our relationship conference last year also brought up that point! “You’ll use a woman who’s shirt is hanging a little low for your own selfish pleasure, but it’s wrong for a woman to breastfeed her baby in public? She has to go in the bathroom to do it?”
He also brought up another reason why men have to stop sexualizing our bodies: Ministry. In other countries, it isn’t offensive for women to be topless, and if you’re there on a mission trip and all you can think is BOOOOOBBBSSS- there’s a problem.
Back to swimsuits- I don’t usually wear bikinis, but I don’t have a problem with them either. I’m an A, so it’s not like my boobs are hanging out- I don’t have any. I think I’ll buy a midkini this summer, though. It’s the perfect combination of a bikini and a tankini, so I’m covered but I can still show my piercings.
|February 24, 2015 at 08:23|
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