Okay, So I am just about to finish up my freshman year of college and I have big dreams to become a physical therapist (which is A TON of school) so I realize I have to work hard to get there. I’ve also been dating this guy for 2 years and we chose to attend the same school to allow the relationship to continue to grow (plus we both REALLY like the school). He is really great, loves God and leads our relationship in ways that draw us both closer to God. He also has a great family and we have both become part of a wonderful church family at a church in the town we go to college in. So naturally, we have come to the point where we have started talking about getting married, possibly as soon as the summer of 2016. We have both talked to several people we trust would give us godly advice and we both still feel that getting married at some point in college would be good for us. But there is one catch. I am WAY more ambitious than he is. I work really hard to get good grades while he does just enough to get by… if that. We argue a lot about this because I don’t want to marry a man who can’t even be responsible enough to handle his classes, and if we get married in college he is going to have a lot more responsibility added on to that! Anyway, now that I’m seeing his work ethic, I am beginning to rethink the whole relationship, but I don’t know if this is a valid reason to break things off when it seems like everything else about him makes me see God’s love. I love him and I would really love to spend the rest of my life with him, but I don’t want my emotions to get in the way. Could this just be something we have to get past? I struggle with finding self-worth in academics, so am I expecting too much from him? Will this major difference help both of us to even out so he is more driven and I’m not such a work-a-holic? Helpppp.
|April 26, 2015 at 21:20|
It sounds like you two need to have a serious conversation, without arguing. You’re both obviously different people and if you have a mature conversation about it, you will hopefully be able balance each other out and be good for one another.
|May 7, 2015 at 13:15|
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